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Ok I have another quick question

One of her friends recently separated from her husband

She is a spiritualist and every day she is posting several posts on FaceBook relating to inspirantal words

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She posted a picture with the words
One day she realised she could not please everyone
So,she gave up trying and decided to be herself
Weather other people liked it or not was not her business

And

Sometimes you have to do what is best for you and your life
Not what's best for everybody else's

And

You are never too old to set another goal or dream another dream

And
It's ok to live a life others do not understand

I think her friend is trying to influence or get into my wife's mind but I do not think there is anything I can do

Do I ignore it or mention it

Is this something I should be concerned with

Do I sound pathetic ?

Thanks in advance

Gary


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Ghost,

My wife was posting the same crap on ber facebook page. This was when she was telling people how terrible I was. Once the A was exposed she stopped.


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Ghost, delete any and all of her friends off of FB. Believe me, it will only make things better. Once I removed my WW, her friends, her family (except my in-laws and her brother), I didn't dread going on FB.


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What would you mentioming it accomplish?

It's nothing you can control so ignore it. You shouldn't be mentioning anything to her right now.

No, you don't sound pathetic. Your just trying to find a reason why she's leaving you, it's not because of her friend. It's because of the issues in your M and her CHOICE thinking the grass is greener which may be influenced by the friend.

The friend might not be intentionally trying to get in her head but since she's living the great single life up right now W likely likely sees that. Doesn't mean it will last.

Over thinking her friends or W's FB posts is a great way to go insane also.

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Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
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Hi am I about to make a mistake

About a Week ago I mentioned to the W it would be nice to go out just the two of us for a meal or to a bar

Well,she has just said tonight we can go out for a meal

Do I go or do I put it off

Btw thank you for the comments re the facebook posts
Gary


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I know exactly what I would want to do, but I would believe it would be best to be busy?


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Just to add i am sure this is not about anything other than going out for a meal


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Maybe something like "tonight isn't good for me, maybe check back next week."? I'll let some others chime in... Don't go on my word please


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She does know that right now I have no other plans


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Can you work late? Something popped up? I don't know, I forgot that you still live together when I said that...


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Many false starts by XF
7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life
2/17 girlfriend moves in my home


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