Hang in there. We all have that feeling and we will all continue to get that feeling for a while. It is all part of the process. That it what I keep telling myself and it sounds like you know this already. When you feel this way just come to the board and post. That seems to help me a lot.
Me: 30's W: 30's M: 12yrs EA: Started 3/2015 MC Started: 4/2015 She moved out and served 6/2015 PA: Confirmed 10/5/2015 2 young kids
"If you do not stand for something you will fall for anything."
That's what I try to do buddy, it's just hard... Watching a person you care so much about piss their life away. It's hard not to at least try to help but it is not in my place at this point. There is a lot of stuff going on in her life other than "us". I think that has an impact on why we are where we are. I'm not saying that is the only reason it just complicates things that much more. When she started to feel overwhelmed, it was easy to look at me and decide I was the cause. I hope she sees now that by walking away all these other problems are still there. The only difference is now she has to face them alone. Not that facing them together would have been easy, the stress is what caused most of our disagreements about little things to escalate into seemingly more. I'm just lost...
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
My story as well. It like we are living the same life. It's crazy how these sitches seem to be textbook. The good thing is that it allows us to feel comfore following a plan like DB.
Me: 30's W: 30's M: 12yrs EA: Started 3/2015 MC Started: 4/2015 She moved out and served 6/2015 PA: Confirmed 10/5/2015 2 young kids
"If you do not stand for something you will fall for anything."
Are you anywhere on east coast whyus? Maybe we could have a few beers and lean on each other! Haha
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
I want so bad to just reach out and hug her, give her a giant kiss when I see her. But on the other hand id like to smack her in the face for all the hurt she has put on our son and myself. I'm just confused as to what I want right now. I shouldn't word it that way, I know what I want or I wouldn't be here. It's just as the pain keeps pileing up its getting harder to stay focused on the big picture. I get the stupid feeling that I need to lash out and just get everything off my chest and spew all over her. I guess that is resentment building in me for everything that has happened? I just need to control that so I don't mess this up any worse than it is.
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
I am going on 6 months of separation (she moved out on Valentines Day) and I still have ups and downs. I can go a week without thinking about her, then something will trigger in me and all of a sudden I am right back at square one.
GAL too, that is super important and really helps a lot!
Me: 38 W: 32 S10 D6 T: 10 (02/2004) M: 7 (12/2007) Separation 02/2015 OM confirmed 01/2015, D mentioned 12/2014 D finalized 9/2016
If you don't mind me asking which state whyus? If you don't want to answer I understand
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
That it very understandable, that is why I asked the way I did...
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
