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NDY,

You need to do what you can to protect yourself emotionally as well. Yeah, the WASes' minds are warped. I am glad to read that you're keeping yourself busy with GAL activities.

Stay cool. cool

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Hi NDY

Right, time to write a proper post!

That was a real kicker with the anniv. Did you get any response from W? Was your S with you? Realise your going to be feeling rough. I think a GAL activity might be good for you this weekend.

Hope you're feeling better, anyway. I know my sitch doesn't seem as drastic at the moment (she's got to return, yet), so I hope you don't feel like the 'improvement' is having ill effects on you. I hope I don't come across as rubbing you up the wrong way.

Heartily recommend a trip to Brighton with your S though. Plenty to do and a frequent flight package from Glasgow/Edinburgh to Gatwick means you can be there in 90 minutes.

Hoping you start to feel better soon!


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Hi guys.

I'm actually ok. Got lots on now. The buildup was playing on my mind but tbh I expected nothing else. So although I was feeling a bit down I know inside I shouldn't have attached any meaning to that day.

Huddy, my friend do not think for one minute you are in any way making me feel bad or anything else. We are cyber pals and I appreciate you coming here all the time.

Thing is. STBX did contact me today about arrangements for S9 for the next few weeks. Which is ok because it has to happen. I simply replied with "hi, looks fine to me, ta" which is enough don't you think?

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Certainly shows a level of detachment. Her loss if she goes ahead with her D plan.


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Journaling a bit

So the reality of separation hit home a little last night. I had family coming to stay over but had to meet a friend after work first. I didn't get home to a bit later and S9 was already there. He was excited about seeing his family. It was a shame because he couldn't get into his own house as nobody was there.

Anyway family turned up, but later than planned. S9 asked if he could stay a little later so I txt WW if that was ok. But I didn't get an answer so assumed he had to go. S9 was upset as you can imagine.

Then at the last minute WW phones and speaks to S9 to say he can stay late as long as he gets a lift home. Phew. Thank goodness for that. I txt her to say thanks it's really appreciated but S9 appreciates it more. She txt back to say it's no problem.

When it was time for him to go S9 got a lift in a really smart sports car. I took a pick of him in the car and sent it to WW saying he's on his way. She txt back to say he must be loving that car and to thank me for the pick.

So back to normal today. Got GAL plans tonight so I intend to go out at lunch and buy some new clothes for it. Should be a blast.


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Hi NDY

It's the kids that are the real victims in all this. They don't ask for the world to be turned upside down. If only W could see what damage she was doing.....

New clothes? Sounds like a big night!


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Yes, the kids. S9 didn't ask for any of this. Such a shame.

Not so much a bit night as much but a good excuse for GAL. Always with the PMA when your looking sharp on a night out. Regardless of where it is.


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Originally Posted By: NDY
Yes, the kids. S9 didn't ask for any of this. Such a shame.

Not so much a bit night as much but a good excuse for GAL. Always with the PMA when your looking sharp on a night out. Regardless of where it is.


I've realized that it is unfortunate. But it is the reality. So, I have to be twice the parent I was. It is motivation for being the best you can.


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Originally Posted By: NDY
Yes, the kids. S9 didn't ask for any of this. Such a shame.

Not so much a bit night as much but a good excuse for GAL. Always with the PMA when your looking sharp on a night out. Regardless of where it is.


I've realized that it is unfortunate. But it is the reality. So, I have to be twice the parent I was. It is motivation for being the best you can.

Couldn't agree more. One of the things my WW said at BD was I don't do enough with him. Well, near the end that was true because I was so caught up in running the house (to support WW, how ironic). These days I drop everything for any opportunity to spend time with him.


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Snap! So, you do your best to stretch the family finances and do everything that W wants (which mean that you spend too much time at work/means you're knackered when you get in) and you get it in the neck for not doing stuff with the kids/W. You can't win that argument.


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