Thank you, BW. It's nice to hear that someone thinks I made the right choice. I think it will help to make me a better Eirinn, but it's still scary to jump into the abyss.
Did you see my response to your question about my home atmosphere?
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M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
So, I had an interview last week and was offered the job yesterday. It is an amazing place, but my last position just opened up again. So I had to decide between a school I've been at since 1997 or a new school that is heading in an exciting direction. One a safe choice, and one a scary but interesting choice.
I waited a day...and took the new job. I'm scared beyond belief, but I think I made the right choice for me. It's yet another change for me, but in all honesty, so would have been my old school as it has changed since I left 4 years ago.
Just wish there was a button that tells you if you make a right decision. Wouldn't that be nice?
I also have the fear that once I get my first paycheck in September, my H will leave.
Good for you! I think change is good at this point. Anything to make us focus on areas of our lives other than our M's. Congratulations on both the position and the courage to accept it.
Who knows what doors this will open up for you both professionally and personally. It definitely takes some gumption to try something new when your safety net has crumbled a bit.
Big hug,
PP
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17
You have been Focusing your energy on yourself and look what happened...new opportunities arise and you are in a postion to take it and do. I am so excited for you.
I am also so very excited that you are willing to take a chance on you, to put yourself Out there. Woo-hoo!
Hooray for Eirinn!! Glad you took a risk and have gone for the unknown - that's growth for you.
Try and let go of this nagging fear about H. He will do what he will do & it's out of your control. However, you have a lovely S and a new job that's going to be stimulating and interesting. And greater financial independence....all good!
A big well done to you Eirinn!! x
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Yes, I saw your post. It sounds like your doing a bit better at home, so I am happy to hear that. My H is barely speaking to me now. Throwing temper tantrum since I am calling him on A and setting boundries. Taking it day by day...
BW
Me: 42 H: 40 M: 12 H moved out - 8/2015 I filed - 8/2015
PP, Matt, Teach, Zephyr, and Toots, thank you so much for reassuring me that I'm making the right move! I woke up this morning feeling calm, so I too think I made the right choice. A change that I choose to make rather than it being forced on me.
Toots, I will try really hard not to worry about the fall and my H. I know what he does is his concern, but I still have problems detaching. Hopefully, with the return for me to full time work, I will find it easier.
Now, speaking of my H, he informed me last night that he is doing a hiking/camping trip the 4th of July weekend. I said, "That sounds like fun!" and left it at that as I was headed out to teach agility.
Do I ask him where, if he's going alone, anything? Or just leave it at what I already said?
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
If you are around at all, could you fix my links on the first page. I meant to link it to my last thread and instead reposted the first three. For some reason, I can't edit the first message in this thread.
Sorry,
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M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
