Sorry for the hijack OD but to respond to Mozza's question - I guess because I could be way off base and I could embarrass us both by raising it given the circumstances. I've posted more about the situation on my thread.
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014
Mozza Thanks for chipping in. I've read some of your thread about this and the resulting discussion.
gan Being back at the house isn't as bad as it was. Experience, awareness and a spot of mindfullness means I can handle it better. I still wish I wasn't there though.
I'm intrigued by why the term Daft Lass irked you initially. It's certainly a lot friendlier than some of the things I called her :-)
As far as what I want from my lady friend? Well company, laughs and x rated fun (Copyright Gg) is a good start.
Got to keep in mind openness and honesty though. And it looks like you need to do the same gan, as Mozza suggests, "what could happen?" You may not want the same thing as each other and decide not to proceed down a path where one or either you gets hurt or you could take it easy and see what transpires.
Don't worry about hijacking my thread, this is what it's all about. My thread is open to all ... except Daft Lass :-)
M: 57 / EW: 52 T: 21, M: 8 S: 18, S: 15 Bomb: 1 Jun 14 EA Aug 2014 I think PA Feb 2015 possibly sooner
In my case xh2 basically made his choice that his a was his soulmate and no way was he giving that up, I had to step away for years. A long time he indicated.
So there is very little to save and I suspected the a had been around for nearly a year if not her then someone else.
I'm in the same boat smitten new op, his wife while abusvie more than likely she died. I'm not so sure but I both want to continue and slow down and back off at the same time. It seems like the hokey pokey is in vogue. He's so sure that things just are right.
Me I doubt everything, my judgements and thoughts of how things are, given before I never saw any signs. It's natural.
One of my 180's for me was to only commit to things I can stand by 1000000%
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
Hi OD, glad to hear things are going well for you. In your posts, you certainly sound much more settled and upbeat.....look forward to hearing your update and hope your group goes well.
T xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
