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Man yall are really firing me up! I need these words of encouragement and I need these reminders! I'm not freaking out but it's just scary and definitely overwhelming but this forum is a huge blessing for me and a constant reminder to keep fighting!!

I'll find out if she filed later tonight either way I'll keep moving forward


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Originally Posted By: Kembo05
Man yall are really firing me up! I need these words of encouragement and I need these reminders! I'm not freaking out but it's just scary and definitely overwhelming but this forum is a huge blessing for me and a constant reminder to keep fighting!!

I'll find out if she filed later tonight either way I'll keep moving forward

Good man. Love the accent btw.

Losing the fear is a big deal. That's something to think about. Know why? You WILL be ok with or without your W. Now, once you accept that it will eventually transmit to your W. Apparently that's a big draw for them. Steady and slow my friend.


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So m counselor said if my W has filed I should leave the house tonight and find my lawyer tomorrow. Thoughts on leaving house?


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BD: 2/13/15 (I found out, she didn't tell me)
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Originally Posted By: Kembo05
Thoughts on leaving house?

BAD ADVICE!

Why do you have to leave?

That is one of the worst things that you can do,
definitely get legal advice before proceeding.


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Perfect, thanks cadet


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She's been a great counselor so far and she said she doesn't know 100% of Answers I told her I was weary about leaving and she said if I felt that was wrong I shouldn't leave


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ILYBINILWY: Jan 15
BD: 2/13/15 (I found out, she didn't tell me)
W filed for D after I confronted OM 5-27-15
Papers served 6-3-15
Temporary Order 7-15-15
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My research says this is the biggest legal mistake you can make.

Try searching on

"should i leave the house before the divorce"


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Glad I asked; I have a firm understanding of why not to leave after reading the first article, especially with D2


Me: 32 Her: 29
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ILYBINILWY: Jan 15
BD: 2/13/15 (I found out, she didn't tell me)
W filed for D after I confronted OM 5-27-15
Papers served 6-3-15
Temporary Order 7-15-15
W Moved out 7-17-15
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So W said she filled out some of the paperwork for D but she hasn't officially filed. She said she was still willing to go to our counselor she said just cause she is filing doesn't mean it's over. So I said why file? And she said something has to change. I told her she can have what she wants but I'm going to keep living my life. I didn't beg or ask or plead for her to change her mind. My DB should be here soon and I'm ready to get started with it

She expected me to leave the house and I told her I wasn't leaving. She also pulled the "we haven't had any intimacy for 10 years" and "divorce will be better for D2 in the long run" and "I'm hoping we can tell our D2 the same thing when the time comes" I told her I was going to keep our D2s best interest in mind but I wasn't going to lie for my W or cover for her when my D2 comes asking questions when she gets older

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M: 5 T: 11
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ILYBINILWY: Jan 15
BD: 2/13/15 (I found out, she didn't tell me)
W filed for D after I confronted OM 5-27-15
Papers served 6-3-15
Temporary Order 7-15-15
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Originally Posted By: Kembo05
So W said she filled out some of the paperwork for D but she hasn't officially filed. She said she was still willing to go to our counselor she said just cause she is filing doesn't mean it's over. So I said why file? And she said something has to change. I told her she can have what she wants but I'm going to keep living my life. I didn't beg or ask or plead for her to change her mind. My DB should be here soon and I'm ready to get started with it

But OM is still in the picture, right?


Me:43 Her:42
M:14
S:9
EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts)
PA started 2014/05/30
BD:2014/11/05
I left 2015/10/01
I returned 2015/05/02
She left 2015/06/10
OM still on the go.
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