Thank you Heather, your kind words mean so much. I am a very sensitive person, but thanks to you guys here, I have built up my self confidence and truly know I deserve better than the man H is right now. I am Learning to let his behavior not get to me.
At one point, he was looking up how to make homemade "snake" fireworks. He came running into the house asking for baking soda and powdered sugar, while I am trying to pull our dinner together. I asked him, you just bought a huge pack of fireworks and you want to make your own?? He said, I just want to try it. Being someone with anxiety issues as I am, he DOES NOT help! Truly teenage behavior. But I sucked it up, held son back away with me, and prayed he wasn't going to blow us all up. But based on the ingredients, I stayed calm and logical....
Ya, he can be a real handful sometimes....
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-
Sorry .. I giggle sometimes thinking about you shaking your head at your H, he truly has that teenage-wolf MLC thing going ... like when GB talks about her H wearing superhero T shirts (I have them too, but shhh... that is between you and I)
You sound well despite all this, silver lining .. your H spent the holiday with you and S, even if he is a bit whack-a-doo .. he was there and was a positive experience for him from the sounds of it. I envy your ability to stay detached from it personally .. I get sucked in so dang hard and fast it irks me.
You know, all men SHOULD have some little boy in them. It brings fun, right? It's one of the things I love about H, despite the anxiety it brings on. Yes, I shake my head, but it is usually while smiling!
And I agree, it was great to have us celebrate as a family. I think it means a lot to all 3 of us. It started rocky, and I was a actually a little bit nervous at first. I couldn't decide what to wear, not too dressy but not too casual....I even curled my hair. We ended up having fun, and for the first time in a long time he took pics of son and I together, not just son alone.
I do however stay very detached. I take it for the moment and don't read into what he says or does. Zero expectations, it's truly a blessing to be in this place after so long!
Hang in there Cali, you are in a more difficult spot with W right now. Mine is easy right now....I know you will find your peace again.
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-
You know, all men SHOULD have some little boy in them. It brings fun, right? It's one of the things I love about H, despite the anxiety it brings on. Yes, I shake my head, but it is usually while smiling!
Yes, but there is a huge difference between child-like and childish.
Me: 50 W:43 S6, S3 M: 12 yrs. T: 17 M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14 S 5 Feb '15 D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry") DB Coach May '15 Wants proceed on D Aug '15 Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15
Now, that's interesting. Of course, on the cruise there are so many activities that you don't have to be around each other unless you want to be. It would be a great way for your son to bond w/his father...but do you really want him to tag along and stay in the same cabin w/you? Of course, he could very well sleep out on the deck in a deck chair. LOL!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Omg you guys,my head is spinning. I am at work and can't focus, but real quick, I told him yes because I had offered when I first booked this. So, I am thinking we should have our own rooms and have been pushing that politely. He is calling and trying to upgrade us into a grand suite so we can all be together. He has been haggling with this all morning. I am confused and not really sure what to do, but just going with it and letting it play out. The price would be less than getting 2 rooms, and hello, SUITE!, but I don't know, not real keen on this idea.......
Will fill you in later
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-
