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She was supposed to call this morning. Have t heard from her, so instead of waiting around we are starting our day and I'm leaving my phone inside.

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Originally Posted By: Upnorth
She was supposed to call this morning. Have t heard from her, so instead of waiting around we are starting our day and I'm leaving my phone inside.

This is good. You're demonstrating that you're not hanging around waiting for her. You're moving on with your life. Well done.


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When we came in from our project there was a tm, wondering when we were starting. I messaged her back saying since we hadn't heard from her we went ahead and did it without her.
We then left, went and did some visiting and playing around. When we returned there was another tm apologizing and wondering if she could come out later.
We took a walk in the woods looking for mushrooms and when we returned she was there. She stayed a couple of hrs. I think I did well. Just chatted, pretty low key. Before she left she sought me out and initiated a hug.

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Last night I got a text from her, how she misses S and asking why I couldn't have sought treatment sooner.
I just tried to validate her feelings.

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Now this morning several TMs, I'm sorry, have you given up on me?, this is all my fault

Not sure what to do?

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Hi up north

I'm hoping a vet stops by for you soon. Posting to give your thread a bump.


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Originally Posted By: Upnorth
Now this morning several TMs, I'm sorry, have you given up on me?, this is all my fault

Not sure what to do?

She is testing your changes to see if they are real.

Are they real?


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Absolutely real. I feel better than I have in years even amongst all the chaos.

I held it together, I told her I hadn't given up but didn't go any further.

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Hi friend

So, as cadet said she is testing you. Lucky you to be there so quickly. And that's something I'd be cautious of. I'm not a vet and probably not the correct person to say anything but if this happened to me tomorrow I'd take it with a pinch of salt.

From what I've read the WW needs to pursue, really pursue. If this is the start of that then fantastic. Keep cool and keep your distance. Perhaps someone else with more experience than I will chip in as I recon this could be a critical juncture.


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Hi Upnorth,

I think you are doing great. Keep it up. Those changes really need to take root - which they will with enough practice and discipline.

Expect many, many more tests to see if they are real.

GH31


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T: 23
M: 20
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W left: 01/28/08
Discovered OM: 02/26/08
W back for 9 days: 04/08
W returned 05/21/08
EA/PA - 01/08-07/09
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