Sad, but usually true. They like to "muddy the waters" as I say.
I hope someone else chimes in for you.
Your friend-
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
W broke cover tonight and asked how i'd got on a L today. But it's a bank holiday, so the L's closed. You can tell she's really itching to find out what I've been doing today. Good sign, or just impatience to get her leaving plan under way? See how the week pans out.
New furniture, that we ordered in February arrives on 16 June. Even if we put the house up for sale then, it could be months before it sells.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Good sign, or just impatience to get her leaving plan under way? See how the week pans out.
My friend Huddy,
That's a good question. Unfortunately, only she knows for sure.
Try not to think too far into the future. Also, keep a PMA. If you can do this, you won't feel quite as stressed and, little by little, maybe your W will noticea change in you.
It's worth a try, isn't it? You're doing well under very rough circumstances.
Regards,
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
W broke cover tonight and asked how i'd got on a L today. But it's a bank holiday, so the L's closed. You can tell she's really itching to find out what I've been doing today. Good sign, or just impatience to get her leaving plan under way? See how the week pans out.
New furniture, that we ordered in February arrives on 16 June. Even if we put the house up for sale then, it could be months before it sells.
Hi mate.
No point in mind reading. Forget that. Anyway remember to keep the game plan to yourself. Thinking about you mate. Peace from the west coast.
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Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
So although I get sandi2's point I still feel there is a balance to be maintained. Sure, don't allow yourself to be walked all over but also be very careful on how far you are prepared to go.
That is good thinking to me..
Kind of interesting topic this, because I'm not one of these cry-to-get-my-way or throw a fit and get my way kind of woman and I have started to think that the fact that I'm not is something that isn't good in a R. To me it seems like men almost want to be pushed around by women, I see and hear what my friends "do" to their husbands and still they stay.. It seems to me like they keep working to prove themselves worthy or something and never give up no matter what bullshit their spouses throw at them. I try to be the opposite and he leaves..
Huddy, I think your doing great not taking the bait and I hope you get some good news from L tomorrow! Can I ask what is the lighthouse you all keep referring to?
Hug!
M: 44 H: 43 ILYBNILWY: 7/4-15 Decided to try to reconnect. "This doesn't work, I have no feelings": 20/4-15 Scheduled "talk" :9/5-15 It's over: 9/5
I know I shouldn't try to mindread, but you really can see she is desperate to find out what I'm doing. She was quite calm about asking last night, almost like W used to be.
S had an autism fit last night and threw his tablet computer across the room at D and broke the glass front. W waited until I came downstairs to deal with it. Maybe she is just realising how hard it's going to be on her own. Ooops, that's mindreading again.
L's at 12. Report back later!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
