Old dog seeks new trick 14

[raliced]

OD- I'd lose the part about the boys presents. I can tell it irritates you - but it won't get you anywhere.

The meat is in the second paragraph. This is just my opinion - but I would open by pointing out that you only get to see the boys X days a month, that time is important to you, and that this weekend's events have made you realize that she is not on the same page. Therefore, in order to avoid any future misunderstandings - your position is that from X time on Friday to X time on Sundays is your time (with respect to the boys wishes ). Of course you will be happy to be flexible if possible, as long as it is discussed ahead of time.

Hope S15 is healing up well!

[Old Dog]

Usually it is 8pm Friday to 4pm Sunday, but it's a bank holiday weekend and I swapped weeks a couple of weeks ago so I could be here on my birthday and S12's in two weeks time.

I don't know how long ago she arranged this visit but it would have been my off week. Mind you she does know it's my birthday, so she might have thought to ask.

S15 is doing OK thanks. He's got a nice scar all the way down his back gruesome ... but cool.

[Sotto]

Hi OD, here are my suggestions..

Hi W, Thanks for letting me know about S15 being signed off for a whole year now. I presume this means he's fine but they want to see him again in a year? That's great if so. Also, if you could let me know beforehand when he's due to go to physio, I would be grateful. Is there a nearer one than Addenbrookes at all?

With regard to this weekend, I'm pleased you managed to take the boys away, but as I only get to spend a few days each month with them, I would prefer you to check with me if this kind of thing happens again please. I hope they had a good time though.

Have a good week, OD

[Old Dog]

Toots that sounds so DB that I think she'd assume someone else wrote it ... oh they did ;-)

[gan]

Happy belated bday, NSOD. So did you send the message? Did W respond?

[Old Dog]

Thanks gan. No, I haven't sent it yet. I'm invoking the 72 hour rule.

I left the card, opened but put back in it's envelope, and tequila (WW's birthday present to me) with all the other drinks in the house plus I removed all my clothes from the house today on my way back to the flat.

The big news though is I woke up this morning and the underlying simmering anger I have felt for the past few months has gone. I know not where, but it feels good. I hope it lasts.

[Bob723]

The big news though is I woke up this morning and the underlying simmering anger I have felt for the past few months has gone. I know not where, but it feels good. I hope it lasts.

Hello OD,

That's interesting, I hope it lasts, too!

In regards to Toot's suggestion, you know your W and if you feel she'll think someone else wrote it, you're probably right.

Toots has helped me with many texts, etc. and I love her suggestion. They have usually been well-received by my WAW. Is there a way you could modify it so it sounds like it's coming from you but keep the meat of Toots' suggestion?

I'd love to see you modify it and the post it for our review.

Do you think you can give it a shot?

Bob

[Old Dog]

Hi Bob, yes I have received help before and always modify to my style.

I'll see if I can give it a go tomorrow. It's midnight in merrie England now. So goodnight all.

[Vanilla]

OD

I am wishing you happy bday in a belated style.

I think you have moved to the anger part of the Kubler Ross grief process and frankly this is healthy part of your recovery.

You have a choice with this emotion, use it to project yourself forward, internalise it and blame yourself or hate WW or OM forever.

V

[Old Dog]

Thank you V.

I think I've slipped down the anger curve into ... I don't know what yet but I hope it's healthy.

I haven't had a chance to work on my reply yet. Well actually I have but I keep putting it off. I have been quite busy though.

And I now have another email to deal with. More later.