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Cherry I don't think you seem ungrateful. I think you sound wise. You have your marriage shattered and now you are putting it back together. It's got to be incredibly difficult for you right now. I'm glad to hear that you a few more in depth conversations with your H. I hope he comes to realize what you need sooner rather than later.

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So, driving to VA and enjoying my trip when I suddenly start thinking about my working full time in the fall and not seeing my S except for two hours a day during the week. Now I'm totally wigged out and all my friends are doing Memorial Day things. Almost called my H, but I stopped myself. I know this is the reality for most families, but with our recent news about him and the fact that I've been a SAHM since he was born, I'm flipping out.


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It's ok Eirinn. Going back to work is always hard, but you can do it. You'll find ways to make the time you do have together special. It's about quality, and that's something you can control.

You can do it. Thinking good thoughts for you.


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Thanks, Matt. I needed to hear that. I so love my boy. Love my H too but he's an idiot right now.

How's your weekend shaping up?


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Eirinn -
Lookin good. Doing fun stuff with the girls today. D6's bday party tomorrow then hanging with friends all the rest of the weekend. Should be a good time.

Wishing you the best.


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That's great Matt!! How did the birthday party go? I had a much better day today and enjoyed just listening to books and singing on my way home today.

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The party went as well as I could hope. I posted an update. Had a good time with family and friends and had positive interactions with the W. Exuded PMA, didn't pursue anything, didn't linger around afterwards. All-in-all not too bad.

Glad you're feeling better. I'm pretty sure there's dozens of people out there that think I'm crazy due to the singing and dancing in the car. And now D6 does it too. And she likes the music up loud so she can sing too. It's so great.

Take care and enjoy the holiday.


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How are you today, Eirinn? My trip was fun and went well.

Are you ready for this? My W is not coming by after all today. If you have time and are curious, please see my thread.

{{{{Eirinn}}}}

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Eirinn as a mother I totally see you're freak out. I have just returned to work and had to leave my baby who I have barely spent any time away from since birth. But you know, in a way I think it does you good. I was so scared and just didn't wanna be away from him. But it gives me me time, dress nicely- do my make up and hair and speak to adults. And then when I see him, and he runs up to me shouting mama it's so worth it- and the time I spend with him feels more precious. Just remember you're working so you can give your child the best- that's what gets me through

((((Eirinn))))


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Thank you Cherry. I forgot that you were going through the same thing. I've been with him for 4 years and with our recent issues with him, makes me want to hold tighter.

Now that I'm not driving and freaking out, I can actually think full day care could be very good for him as social is not a strong suit for him.

Thanks again for reminding me of the positives.


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