I guess you are telling us you didnt do the homework I assigned on the first post I made to you,
You will find it there.
Well, I had actually read it but didn't remember it was called light house.. It was quite a few links you so kindly posted, so I guess that's why I didn't remember that one especially.
I do my best, to get all of this down. I guess I'm not as good as most.
M: 44 H: 43 ILYBNILWY: 7/4-15 Decided to try to reconnect. "This doesn't work, I have no feelings": 20/4-15 Scheduled "talk" :9/5-15 It's over: 9/5
To be fair it's a lot of homework, don't beat yourself up about it Tulo. In my world there are no such things as stupid questions and given out sitches we can be forgiven the odd minor indiscretion.
Peace
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Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Sadly Smooth, whilst all men have fantasy dreams about their wife having a threesome etc., in reality, nobody really wants somebody to get up close and personal with our other halves.
Pictures - yeah, I get that; who wouldn't want to see their W looking sexy and you can get off on that. Making a video together or something, again, I can see how that gets somebody going, but actually getting another fella to rip into you four times seems a bit....well, each to their own. Did he take part, or were you alone? Was he watching?
Just my opinion, in a field where I have never done any of these things, so discount my opinion if you want, if you have had intercourse whilst he wasn't there, I don't see how that could be a fantasy, unless he gets off on being a cuck.
I think that's probably goosed the relationship. Don't know how you come back from that.
Huddy, some answers to your questions. Sorry if TMI
H was really into it, he wanted to find me someone, in the end I arranged for us to visit a club where he watched while I had sex with someone he chose. He said it was amazing, better than he imagined. H was not wanting to have sex with another female or join in, just watching me. He said the idea of me and another Man really excited him.
It was just H watching, he was not participating.
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
OK, so it's a fantasy gone bad then? He has to take his part in the blame game then. If he wanted it, he must have weighed it up in his mind. I'm just surprised he didn't take part.
Your H has to realise that it should have stayed a fantasy and it was a bad choice. He needs to get past this.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
To be fair it's a lot of homework, don't beat yourself up about it Tulo. In my world there are no such things as stupid questions and given out sitches we can be forgiven the odd minor indiscretion.
Peace
Thanks NDY!
You are sweet as always! Hug!
M: 44 H: 43 ILYBNILWY: 7/4-15 Decided to try to reconnect. "This doesn't work, I have no feelings": 20/4-15 Scheduled "talk" :9/5-15 It's over: 9/5
It' would be our anniversary tomorrow, so I get an email TODAY, telling me the date the decree nisi will be read in court. Signed H x.
Bad timing, deliberate sending of email?
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
What difference would the timing make? Don't try and mind read. See it for what it is and move on.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
You are right! These dates are so significant in our lives though.
I will ignore the anniversary date tomorrow.
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
