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The story about the ex boyfriend is awesome, good job.

Originally Posted By: Diana45
Also made me realize that holding on to the resentment towards my husband is a stupid thing. I forgive him for leaving me at the worst time of my life. Both of our lives have now changed for the better. Whatever will be, will be. We will work on our respective issues alone and on our marriage together. I see a bright future ahead of me. smile


^^ This is good stuff. Those emotions/feeling are likely to come back up at some point, only natural, but you acknowledged its not good for you to hold onto them. The best thing we can do is experience them and let them pass.


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So why can't my H just call me when he says he will?
This is 2 nights in a row I haven't heard from him.
He wants us to get back together after we get our separate issues and couples issues figured out, yet he doesn't have the common decency to treat me with respect. If he told any of his guy friends that he would call you betcha that nothing would stop him from calling them. Why does he do that?
I really, really need to figure out if I want to get back together with a man that thinks so little of me.


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Working around the house today and it's so overwhelming.
So much stuff to get rid of and not enough time and energy to do it.


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Diana... Just got up to speed on your thread. Strong Work Girl! You have your ups and downs, but that was awesome about the X-BF!

As for today. Could you hire someone? Or get friends to help or family? Or burn down the house (just kidding). If you don't want to do it. Don't. Can't it wait?

In my sich... I've talked a lot about X not doing what she said she would do. People told me that perhaps I have expectations. I guess I do, and my advice is to not have them... even though that is difficult.


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Good morning mahhhty, thanks so much for stopping by and giving advice.

Yes I am thinking of paying for some of the work to be done and yes I thought about burning the house down. I'm hoping to mobilize some friends and family this week. One day at a time trying to get this house ready. Just wish it was already done and sold so I can move on with my life. Lol

Today is our first MC session. Not sure how it will go, but keeping an open mind.
Also have an IC session later in the day. I think I will be all talked out by this afternoon.


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You aren't alone. I've thought of burning it done before. Obviously daydreaming. No matter how you get there you will be stronger on the other end.

Good luck with MC and IC!


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So how did yesterday go?


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The counselling was good. The rest of it not so much. Not anything to do with my H. Lol!! Kids being difficult, my mother and brothers being super critical and negative on everything. Very frustrating at times.

My H talked mostly in the MC session. It was surprising and nice to hear how much he doesn't want a divorce and how he wants for our marriage to be better and stronger than the one we had. The counsellor said she was pleasantly surprised with us, since most often she only sees couples that fight. We don't fight much anymore. We listen to each other more and agree to disagree. smile


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That sounds like a positive situation with your H in MC.

Whats going on with your Mom and Brothers?


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Originally Posted By: Diana45
Hi Bob,

Nice to hear from you.

Yes moving forward is what I am doing. Funny thing is the better I get at moving forward the more insecure my H gets. He woke up last night from a nightmare in which I had found someone else. He is really worried that I will leave him behind.

How is your situation going? Have you heard anything from your wife?
Hi Diana,

Good to hear that you are moving forward. Obviously, you have gotten your H's attention. I think it was mahhhty who reminded you not to have any expecations re: your H calling and such. I have no idea how many times my W has said she would call the next night and it would be, if I was lucky, one week later. Sound advice from mahhhty, as always.

Thank you for asking about my wife. I did hear from her 2 nights ago for the first time in about 3 weeks. Wonka, Toots, mahhhty and others helped me with a reply. I don't want to hijack your thread. If you are up to it and have time, stop on by mine. wink

I think you are hanging in there strong! Please take care.

*Hugs*


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