Trying to be detached. Going ok so far. Only responding to WW when she speaks to me. Keeping it short and to the point. Not cold but cordial. She's acting kinda normal. But to her the marriage is over and she's brazen about the A. To her it's not an A. She's off out with him tonight. I'm doing my best to not let it bother me but it's difficult.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
S9 and I are great. We've been laughing and joking since I went back. He's my best buddy.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Then why is she complaining you don't spend enough time with your s9?
its all part of the history rewriting. You see, I like camping and fishing. That kind of thing. But they way we do it it's kinda wild. Not camp sites nor perfect camp fires. It's hard going. My brother didn't take his S until he was 12 so that we knew he could handle it. WW thinks I should be doing this with S9 now. But, I do things with him. Always have but as far as she is concerned I've done nothing for the last two years. This is the GAL focus for now. Has been since I left but i was sick to death of only getting to see him a couple of hours a week.
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Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
So right now she's out with the OM. No doubt having a blast and S9 is at a sleep over and I'm here alone. I'm sitting here thinking what to do next? How do I handle tomorrow? Do I act as if or what? I'm really confused right now. I want do do stuff with S9 as tomorrow is a holiday here. I know folks will say GAL but right now and m all GALLED out. I just want a bit of piece. Normality.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Hi NDY, if you google Divorce Recovery Workshop, the website should come up. It's a small, national charity which relies on local groups to run the workshops. Their motto (about S and D) is you can go through it or you can grow through it - so I think it fits well with the DB approach.
Once you get onto the website, you can put in your postcode and a map comes up for you to see if there is a group near you. There are also four residential courses this year. If you do the evening workshops, they run for six weeks for 2 hours each week. The cost for the whole thing was �80 in my local group.
The website has all the stuff about what the workshops cover, but it is all about healing from a break up. I'm definitely going to do it, but I just missed a workshop with my local group and would have to wait until November now. I may think about a residential instead - I'm not sure. There are quite a few of us in the UK on the forum - Vanilla, Edz, Jim, OD, RD, Alpha, OTU...
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T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Thank you so much for the info. I'll definitely be looking into that.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
I can't find the web site. I'll try again in the morning.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
