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Originally Posted By: Wonka
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I just received an text from WW and now I'm angry again.


What's going on? Why are you feeling angry?



Again, what is really making you angry? What was the text all about?

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And most welcome :-)

I get angry sometimes because it's so unfair (stamps foot) and I don't deserve this. And when I see a text or email from WW, it just brings it back when into focus when I was working or GAL or whatever.

The text this morning was WWW telling me a couple of things:

That she could have got S12 to phone me as I didn't speak to him when I called yesterday, only S15.

They are going to S12's school this evening to discuss his class options: which subjects he is going to continue with and which to drop. And I won't be there, just as I haven't been for all his others and all but one of S15's. This I not how I imagined being a parent to be and it breaks my heart.

That she is taking them to see her folks this weekend - quite a long way in the car for someone with recuperating from spinal surgery methinks.

And also checking that I'm still coming up alternate weekends and that I'm aware it's a bank holiday next weekend.

I replied that I am aware and that I'd like them to come down to visit me on that weekend. We've sent a couple back and forth about logistics.


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S12 just called me. So I just sent her a text saying thanks for getting him to call.


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In other news, the watch is out, OD!!! What is your plan there? I see Apple kindly included an app in the latest iOS upgrade to entice us all...


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As an Apple fan boy, I'm all excited of course gan ... however, I never wear a watch. And I've always been a little shy of spending money, especially on myself. Having lived on the breadline for so many years, I guess it's a difficult habit to break. WW is crap with money and just spends it. She's taking the kids to se her folks this weekend and going to see an old friend next weekend. Hello? You lost your job remember? Why did I start writing about her? Oh yes lack of detachment.

Back to me me me. It took me over a year to get an iPhone6 ... upgrading from an iPhone 3G would you believe ... not even 3GS. And I'm typing this on an eight year old MacBook Pro!

I did treat myself to an iPad mini the xmas before last though.

Oh and a Mercedes Benz CLK 280 Avantgarde Convertible two weeks ago ... with added engine light and Service B demand.

Thank you for dropping by gan, I look every day to see if someone has added to my thread and am a little disappointed when there's nothing. I don't post as much - I was going to say "as I should" but it's not that - as I would like, to be more involved. I feel as though I take more than I give on here. Maybe that's all I can do at the moment. Paying forward comes later.

There's an issue in that isn't there. Sigh.


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I know what you mean, OD. It feels a little like receiving a gift when someone pays attention to what is going on in our corner. Everyone loves getting a gift. I don't know why but for some reason you struck a chord with me early on. Not sure if it is because you called yourself Old Dog and added the "(Not So)"...something about you resonated for some reason though we've had quite a different reaction to BD (anger for you, no anger for me).

I am the same way as you re money....and that is a habit I am trying to kick as I've denied myself some fun times because of my frugal ways. (I'm fortunate for being able to afford to kick this habit). Went on a bit of a shopping spree today as it turns out.

I remembered you were an apple fanboy - hence my question. As it turns out, I popped into the store today and tried on the watch. I was surprised by how heavy it is (the small version even). I don't wear a watch either so it would be an adjustment, especially considering how large it feels. So far I'm not convinced that I need to make that adjustment....but it is pretty cool.


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Somebody came into my office a week or two ago wearing an Android version of the watch. I didn't even know there was such a thing. It looked cool but I feel like my life is sufficiently intruded on by my phone. The watch seems like a very expensive way to be even more over connected.

STBX has been spending as much on his credit card by himself as I do for me and the three kids on mine. Sometimes more. AND he has a corporate card. It will be a relief to manage my own spending without him. I wasn't frugal when I first met him but I've learned a lot in the last seventeen years.

You're getting there, NS-OD. Read some of my threads from last fall -- and I was already over a year into my sitch at that point. I just passed the one-year anniversary of him moving out without even noticing. You'll get there.


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Of course the car is fixable, it's a machine.

Not so sure about an Apple Watch. Although I do have a Fitbit on my wrist.

I use so much technology that I love it when I have downtime.

I saw Toots saying too much GAL on your last thread. pleeeease is there any such thing?

Drops too at Ceroc. Looking forward to that dance OD even if at the Kindergarten crew party. I have Ceroc dance tonight and regular Sunday Ceroc tomorrow.

I can read you are having a tough time detaching and you know what is needed?

More GAL, specifically Ceroc GAL.

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gan - re checking for posts: It may be something to do with the co-dependent thing. Am I looking for validation from others because I'm not completely comfortable within myself? I get angry if I dwell on how unfair it all is or if I think about WW with OM.

Ah frugality. I just let a right bargain of a bike slip on eBay because of it. And it was in the town where I work so no shipping costs either. Back on my 20 year old Marin tomorrow then. At least I’ve given it a bit of a tweak today. Three new spokes, adjusted the brakes so they work, which is important as my first mile is downhill fast.

Yesterday, I went to a meeting of co-dependents anonymous. Too early to tell if this is for me, but I shared a bit of my feelings and thoughts with the others there. It was a little scary, but not as much as it would have been without all this self examination.

I woke up feeling a bit down so as well as CoDa, I tried to busy myself during the day:
  • did some washing
  • did the washing up
  • found a garage that specialises in Mercs and booked mine in for a service on Tuesday
  • went to Lidl* for two items and spent £65 (mainly on cycling stuff inc a workshop stand :-)
  • went to a gig - Stornoway at the lovely De La Warr Pavillion. I hadn't heard them before, but they were great. Beautiful songs, lovely harmonies and performed well. They also engaged with the audience in an informative and chatty way. Apparently, the oldest ever fossilised spider web was found in Bexhill-on-Sea. I did know about the petrified forest and dinosaur footprints at low tide, but I didn't know about the smallest dinosaur that trudged around before Darwin was born.

I went to the gig on my ow as my flatmates were holding an AA meeting. Although I enjoyed it, I also found myself missing my wife as I looked at other couples and felt sad and moments of anger before I managed to rein them in.

* Lidl is a German owned supermarket known for cheap but decent quality 'different' branded goods ... and also a deadly buy it now aisle that changes every week.

I started this post first thing this morning and left it to finish later, but now it’s bed time so I’ll have to post this now and finish it off tomorrow.

Last edited by Old Dog; 04/26/15 11:04 PM.

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