I think the first time I heard Breaking Benjamin was one of my boys. It is from their age group.
Good old Wonka posted just what I needed to hear tonight! Posted on someone else's thread about how painful divorce is. Some days for me are more trying than others. Today was one of those days. W does nothing but think of herself now. It is very frustrating!!
Every time I get close to throwing in the towel, something changes my mind. You would think since W has already been through painful divorce that she would want to do everything to keep from going through another one.
Last edited by Joe406; 04/17/1504:33 AM.
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
My experience with it is from the children's perspective. My parents got divorced when I was 14. I remember them sitting us down and telling us. I was in shock. We spent several months in counseling. Our sessions consisted of everyone asking me why I don't talk about how I was feeling about the divorce. Than I was treated terribly by my mother, partly because I was not dealing with it well and I think the other part was she saw my dad in me. She was hurt bad by the divorce. Found out later on Dad had a girlfriend. I was booted from mom's house and sent to live with dad and girlfriend and girlfriends son. I became the live in babysitter so dad and GF could go out. I basically felt like I did not belong anywhere. Moved out on my own at 17. Never finished school. Found alcohol!! The drinking numbed my pain inside. From age 17 to 25 became a alcoholic. Found AA at age 25 and have not had a drink since.
My younger sister is still REALLY messed up. Has been ever since she discovered alcohol also.
I have also seen the pain of my step kids! I think it was easier for me to relate to what they went through from my experience.
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
W's addiction to this job is just NUTS!! I took her down to have a surgery done today. She was sick all day from anesthesia and almost passed out. She is in pain and taking pain killers. She takes a nap earlier and than gets up and works tonight!! WTH?? It is getting disturbing. She does nothing else. Rarely cleans the house, rarely does laundry and rarely does anything with her kids.
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
Do you remember how awful your addiction to alcohol was? Do you remember how tough to be without your drug of choice?
That is NUTS!
That is how WW is about her drug of choice. In her case it is a behavioural drug rather than a chemical one. A little understanding but as with your alcohol issue, then complete withdrawal, abstaining is needed. WW has her own 12 steps to do.
My sincerest heartfelt admiration for your achievement in managing your alcohol addiction.
V
Last edited by Vanilla; 04/18/1509:05 AM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
"So? You can't control what she does. If that's her choice, well, then so be it."
Thank You Mr Bond! This is exactly how I have dealt with it lately. I clean the house, do the laundry and spend time with my kids. I don't do these things for WW. I do them for me and the kids. I want my kids to have clean clothes and a clean house and a parent that is there for them. Now I starting to be the grocery shopper also. I pay all the bills except home phone/internet( won't fund WW business). She was supposed to buy groceries. That has dwindled down to almost nothing. But I will gladly feed my kids. She has her own meals( Nutrisystem). She has moved her schedule around again and sends me texts when she is working. It makes no difference to me when she works. I have become accustom to never seeing her anyway. I did thank her for the communication. This is something she is horrible at.
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
