Hi Cherry, I'm glad to hear you are moving forward with things. And the whole IC/MC plan sounds like a good idea. I agree with Eirinn, just take it steady and look after yourself. You've already experienced some of the difficult feelings that can come up - and I think it takes a lot of time and patience and two steps forward, one back and so on.
Has XOW settled down now?..
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Cherry, glad to hear things might be turning around for you and H. I really hope they continue to go well and you can both rebuild your M. Take it slow and try not to expect too much too quickly. There's likely a lot of emotions that have been suppressed that may resurface at some point in the future. Good luck.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
Thanks all, there's time that I do find it really difficult. And I'm usually a person who keeps stuff inside so I make sure I tell him when I'm feeling anxious and talk things through. We are being gentle, but also spending time together. And really talking through what we can do to be better for one another and figuring out how we got into this situation. We are both v keen to make this work. and h is determined to do whatever it takes. Xow has slightly calmed, I'm going to be back to work were she also is shortly. So who knows. She had still been hurling abuse at h a few days ago.
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
It's quite a big company so hopefully not too close. I won't know the extent until my return as I may be moved department. I haven't prepared myself really for her. I know she is most probably going to have something to say to me- but what right does she have? I am the wife SHE is the ow. She knew the situation yet still got involved with a married Man. She's obviously not going to be happy to see me and h together, and from all accounts is a very sneaky and devious woman. Me and h have had many convos on needing to be open and honest with each other- transparent even. And if gossip gets out- we will be strong. My confidence is a lot better than a few months back. I can confidently hold my head high and tell people it is really non of their business.
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
If so, does it make sense that something like this gets disclosed to the supervisor / boss to make sure that they are aware BEFORE the OW starts spouting $hit at the office. Call it damage control or whatever so that you both (Cherry & H) appear to be on the level and she comes off as Cookoo if that is the path that she wants to run down.
Toots- you are certainly right! Every time I've been in the past few weeks to sign papers and things everyone has complimented me and h on how good I'm looking, and that I don't look like I've had a baby. Certainly good for the confidence
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
