Hiya W. I wanted to check in here...how did the follow-up doctor's visit go? I thought about you on that day. I know that stress can make flare-ups worse, let me know if there's anything I can do to help. Hope you are doing better
Wonka has a great point - my W very likely could shoot back with soemthing like "what do you know about my stress?" OR "yeah, and it's all because of you." The list could go on and on.
I took this out: I know that stress can make flare-ups worse
Here's my new draft text: “Hiya W. I just wanted to check in with you, and ask how the follow-up doctor's visit went? I thought about you on that day. How have the MS symptoms been? Let me know if there's anything I can do to help. Hope you are doing better.”
Wow, this shouldn't be so hard, but WAS' can find fault with 1 "wrong" word.
How does my latest draft look?
Thank you so very much.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Should I take out "Let me know if there's anything I can do to help." Unfortunately, I don't have a cure for MS...I wish I did!
Thanks!
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
“Hiya W. I just wanted to check in with you, and ask how the follow-up doctor's visit went? I thought about you on that day. How have the MS symptoms been? Hope you are doing better.”
Any better? I truly appreciate the help!!!
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
“Hiya W. I just wanted to check in with you, and ask how the follow-up doctor's visit went? I thought about you on that day. How have the MS symptoms been? Hope you are doing better.”
Fixed it there..
That particular question is too personal for the WAS....I've learned the hard way so I want you to avoid the very same mistakes we've made in DBing.
“Hiya W. I just wanted to check in with you, and ask how the follow-up doctor's visit went? I thought about you on that day. How have the MS symptoms been? Hope you are doing better.”
Fixed it there..
That particular question is too personal for the WAS....I've learned the hard way so I want you to avoid the very same mistakes we've made in DBing.
Wonka,
I see what you mean, because she doesn't feel emotionally attached to me now. Thank you so much for your patience and wisdom!
So, I'll go with this unless anyone else has any input:
“Hiya W. I just wanted to check in with you, and ask how the follow-up doctor's visit went? I thought about you on that day. Hope you are doing better.”
You are so good at this Wonka!
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
I still haven't sent the text to my W. Wonka is so good at this, but I'm wondering if I should wait a few more days. I've been using NC for two weeks.
As Wonka posted a few days ago, I don't want to come across as uncaring and cold.
Any thoughts out there from anyone? Especially those that of been following my situation closely?
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
You're being very wise Bob. Better you really get your words to where they don't step on any of your own goals, and post here before just writing something out of emotion.
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
I finally summoned up the courage to send my wife the text that Wonka Toots. and I were working on. Guess what? Her phone is off because the message did not get delivered. It's very possible she's not feeling well today. When that's the case she normally doesn't have her phone on for very long.
If and when she does respond, i'll post it to this forum as soon as I can before responding to her.
I love you all very much.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
