Both me and my wife have very demanding jobs. Three years ago we moved her mother with Alzhiemers in and it has put a lot of pressure on our relationship. I decided years ago that I would make sure that I came home at 5pm in order to dedicate time to my wife and kids. I also try not to bring work home. I also do most of the cooking, cleaning, yard work, and shuttle the kids to many appointments (not all). Most of the time she works about 3-4 hours when she gets home. This is a major issue right now because we may spend about an hour a week being intimate. Not sex, just spending time together. I usually initiate contact because she seems to be checked out. She can be a bit of a drama queen and when she is I tend to block what she is saying. I just simply want to have an open honest conversation without the drama and hurt feelings if I do not agree with you.
My 180 was to simply stop initiating physical contact with my wife. She complains that I touch her too much and that I kiss her too much. I have stopped completely. I used to offer massages but she complained, so I stopped.
My 180 was to simply stop initiating physical contact with my wife. She complains that I touch her too much and that I kiss her too much. I have stopped completely. I used to offer massages but she complained, so I stopped.
Your thoughts?
H-47 W-49 C-15 and 11 M 20 yrs
Welcome back to DB
Men are sexual pursurers and emotional distancers. This can flip around as we age.
So yes I think it is a good idea to STOP your sexual pursuit. Hopefully you will get her to pursue you.
Have you ever read the pursuit and distance thread
