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Hello Sandi,

This is Bob and I've been posting for months and never realized that!

I've been trying to offer some advice or at least support to NLS.

NLS, maybe we should both post on the newcomer board.

Is that what you suggest Sandi?


Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS)
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Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14
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Should I allow this? I know sex means different things for men and women but if I shutdown sex in the midst of divorce proceedings then basically it would be counterproductive to changing his mind in this matter.

No, you aren't going to have sex with him, under any circumstances. That isn't going to win him back. Self respect has a far greater chance. Do you want him to stick around only because you had sex with him? NLS, time to start looking at your value in a whole different way, because if you think you are going to hold on to a guy with sex only, you are in for a lifetime of hurt.

Second thing - As Sandi said, this forum is for the spouse who has walked, not the spouse who has been left behind. If you move over to newcomers, you'll see much more traffic and help.

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Hello Sandi,

This is Bob and I've been posting for months and never realized that!

I've been trying to offer some advice or at least support to NLS.

NLS, maybe we should both post on the newcomer board.

Is that what you suggest Sandi?


You will get more responses in Newcomers. And don't feel bad, a lot of people make the same mistake. smile


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My husband left about two months ago. I am very much aware this forum is for walk away spouses. Mine is not only a WAS but a Wayward spouse as well. I'm sorry if you do not see my situation this way, would like your input as to what gave you the impression that I was not in the right forum?


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T: 15 years
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DD: 10/1998
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Sorry, I did not realize the intent of this forum. Thanks, I am also in the newcomers forum. I understand now this is for the leaving spouse as zew said.


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