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Sherman,

This is serious sh!t. Apologies for not reading through your entire thread before asking, but is your L advising you on this??

I agree with Starsky. I know a man who took his child out of his marital home during tumultuous times with his W. I didn't agree with it because circumstances didn't warrant it, IMO. But in your case? Your W sounds downright dangerous for you and your son to be around. She's abusive.


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According to CPS, the Attorney, and the therapist there's nothing that would justify me taking taking him. I've asked how long do we have to put up with this repeatedly.

The emotional abuse is not enough justification. I got her focused on me and put him on the bus.

I'm stuck at the moment and there are ramifications if I do something wrong.

The headphones were on when it was just me. When he was there, they were off.


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The headphones were on when it was just me. When he was there, they were off.



I understand that. My point was that instead of defending and protecting your son in no uncertain terms, you chose to ignore her latest emotional abuse outburst that she directed at him and put your headphones on as if nothing had happened.

If emotional abuse were not enough to get him the hell OUT of there, I would move heaven and earth to find something that *was* enough. Amazing how things can suddenly appear when they need to. wink


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She just blinked. She went into see a lawyer. Something about what he said must have gotten her attention.

She just agreed to give me full custody, sign off on the house (but wants a lot of the furniture), the boat loan, etc.

She's ready to move on and doesn't want to wait or fight about it anymore.

I even have a way through 80% of the debt if she cooperates. I've requested an indemnity clause if she does something stupid with the money.

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put your headphones on as if nothing had happened.


It was on the lawyers advice... he said he's dealt with the personality before and they biggest way to get them to overreact is to ignore them... he suggested the headphones. It was a play to move things along faster more than it was to ignore.


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Originally Posted By: Sherman333
She just blinked. She went into see a lawyer. Something about what he said must have gotten her attention.

She just agreed to give me full custody, sign off on the house (but wants a lot of the furniture), the boat loan, etc.

She's ready to move on and doesn't want to wait or fight about it anymore.

I even have a way through 80% of the debt if she cooperates. I've requested an indemnity clause if she does something stupid with the money.


Get your L to prepare the paperwork and get W's signature ASAP while she's in this state. While they're in a state of guilt or anxious to get out of the M fast, they're willing to sign anything over to the LBS.

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^^^ 100+% agree!!!


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I pulled all the texts off the phone where we hammered out the agreement and sent it to the lawyer.

I'm sure the new guy doesn't want to deal with a kid full time (he just got out of that assuming it's her boss). Strangely enough, she wants to move further away from her boss and her job. So it might be someone else. Who knows and time will tell.

I'm stunned, scared, elated, overwhelmed, happy, etc. etc. I just keep thinking holy Sh!t.



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Get your L to prepare the paperwork and get W's signature ASAP while she's in this state. While they're in a state of guilt or anxious to get out of the M fast, they're willing to sign anything over to the LBS.



This ^^^.


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Originally Posted By: Sherman333
I pulled all the texts off the phone where we hammered out the agreement and sent it to the lawyer.

I'm sure the new guy doesn't want to deal with a kid full time (he just got out of that assuming it's her boss). Strangely enough, she wants to move further away from her boss and her job. So it might be someone else. Who knows and time will tell.

I'm stunned, scared, elated, overwhelmed, happy, etc. etc. I just keep thinking holy Sh!t.



Just because you demolish the house down to the studs and foundation doesn't mean you can't decide to re-build it down the road, if YOU decide to, and IF she does the work (and boy does she have a lot of work to do).

Get square, get liquid, and start a new life with your son. Treat your wife with civility and grace, and you never know what the future might hold.


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