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Today is another day - one foot in front of the other.

I have my IC appointment, a full day of work and then hit the gym after work. My kids are on Spring Break and I miss them. I will see them on Friday. I have worked on their Easter Baskets and have made plans for church, and Easter egg hunt and lunch with friends.

I will add items to my gratitude journal as the day progresses.

Keeping on


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That's what we need to do, keep going. One step closer to happiness.

Sounds like fun with your kids over the weekend, I'll be doing the same with mine. Friday we do this marshmallow drop. Somewhat random, but a helicopter drops a bunch of marshmallows onto the kids from above. Egg hunt Saturday and then church on Sunday.

Stay strong, we will get through this.


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Thanks Fogg

Marshmellow drop sounds like fun! Wish they did that in my neck of the woods.


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Don't forget to pack some Peeps! Easter isn't the same without them in the basket. grin

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Hey Heavy
Keep on keeping on - great PMA!!!

Easter memory: fruit stripe gum (10 seconds of flavor - hours of fun) plus - you can't go wrong with a rainbow zebra - right?


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Peeps and fruit stripe gum are staged to go into baskets. Thanks for the ideas!

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Tell me about gratitude journal please.


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Thanks for asking.

I got a lot of feedback about my negativity and pessimism which I heard loud and clear. It is not attractive, it is self defeating and no one likes to be around an Eyeore.

My gratitude journal is nothing fancy, I am just writing down on a Word document things that I am grateful for. I have so many things to be grateful for. It takes my mind off the turmoil in one area of my life and refocuses it on other areas that are going well. When I write my gratitudes down, the positve feeling does make me feel better about my situation and life in general and reminds me to focus on ME.

Some examples are items I have written are:

I have a house to live in
I have a job that I love
I have made new friends
I have a lot of old friends
I have family that love me
I have two healthy children

Each day I will add some more items that I am grateful for. It's a nice way to remind myself of how very thankful I should be for my life and the people in it.

Would you care to share what things you are grateful for? I expect there will be many.


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You are correct. Despite the heartache of losing my wife and how it went down, I actually have a lot to be thankful for.

I have a great job that I love.
I can make a positive difference in my patient's lives.
I have a nice home, and it is now clean and organized.
I have good health.
I am able to travel.
I have 8 beautiful grandchildren.
I have 4 awesome adult children.
I still have a relationship with my stepchildren.
Etc.


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Your list sounds fantastic!

Wow your time line suggests that everything went quickly. The PA discovery 12/31 until Divorce papers 3/15. That must have been double hard.

I am sorry for that, I know it is painful.


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