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^^^^^^^^^^^

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Right now I think what's the point, she's gone and I'm sure she won't come back even if I do become the man only a fool would leave.

Maybe in the morning it'll be sunny. Sounds very stormy out there now though.


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OD - Seems like you couldn't give a flying f*** about me.


I just read part of your stitch. You're feeding her ego with these lines... like you can't live without her; which isn't true.

You're letting her cake eat emotionally. The point you need to focus on is getting your strength up and be a man.

Try doing something simple like putting a rubber band on your wrist and every time you want to talk up, you snap it... retrain your brain. You're caught in your script of reacting.


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Hey Sherman, a new voice on my thread. Thanks for taking the time to come by.

I've tried the rubber band technique actually and had partial success. I had to use my last one for a bike repair so I'll have to find another.

I'm a 'nice guy'. That's a big problem. I'll have to re-read NMMNG. I'm trying to get an European online group going at the NMMNG forum.

And I have trouble detaching. I think it is coming but painfully slowly.

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Husband Haven has some good ideas too. Google it.


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Thanks Sherman. I just downloaded the eBook.


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Originally Posted By: claire7
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Yeah I know Claire. I'm so bad at DBing ... still. I don't think I'll ever be able to do it.


Um... try to spin that around. the only way to get better at something is to actually practice it, and for that, you have to have the emotional and intellectual strength to pick yourself up when you fail and get back at it.

no one ever got good at something by giving up on it.



I really like this reframing Claire. Wonderful, thank you. Pay attention OD that is three posts plus Sherman and his band.

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Originally Posted By: claire7
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Yeah I know Claire. I'm so bad at DBing ... still. I don't think I'll ever be able to do it.


Um... try to spin that around. the only way to get better at something is to actually practice it, and for that, you have to have the emotional and intellectual strength to pick yourself up when you fail and get back at it.

no one ever got good at something by giving up on it.


Yes. I tell that to the boys all the time. Time for some role modelling then.


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There ya go! Show don't tell!


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I just got a text from WW. She's been made redundant!

I replied sorry to hear that.

But what now? That throws the cat among the pigeons.

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