Put one foot in front of the other...

[Vanilla]

How do I validate my H when he complains that I'm not upset as I should be about our sitch!

You don't validate your feelings only his.

So I understand H why you might feel that way. Then STFU

V

[Elly4]

Okay! That's what I tried, but I didn't STFU. I'll try that next time instead of trying to justify myself.

[Sherman333]

I fall into the same justification trap. Its human and hard not to respond to accusations.

[Elly4]

I was just reading your sitch Sherman, funny that you posted. It's an insane situation you are living through although it seems like you're making the right choices. What rang for me is your relationship with your S. My H has been so distant and or impatient to my 3 year old boy that my S has started clinging to me mostly, which then ticks off my H. Again, not even close to what you're going through but it ticks me off when my H gets upset that my son is upset when I'm leaving to GAL. Children are perceptive. They know when you're not paying attention or being inconsistent. I hope things get solved for you and your S soon.

[Elly4]

Saw this sign today and it made me think.

"Never be afraid to try something new. Remember amateurs built the ark and professionals built the Titanic."

[HeavyD]

haha!!

[Elly4]

Glad that I could give you a laugh, HeavyD. You deserve one.

[HeavyD]

Thanks man

[Elly4]

So H had my car yesterday and when I went into it today it had the passenger temperature controls on. Just makes me suspicious. Our car has been having some electrical issues too though, so I don't know. I guess I should just stop noticing things or should I write them down in case he's lying to me?

[Elly4]

I'm seriously missing my GAL time while my son has the flu bug. Oh well, joys of parenting.

Anyone have input on my suspicions that my husband might have acquired an OW? Do I try to find info, journal things I see, or just ignore?