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[errod]

I just reached out to our best friends from a few years ago. It is good to talk about all the memories. They want me to come hang out.

[errod]

That was nice catching up with old friends. We are going to hang out sometime soon. They also have a D14 who was my D14's best friend. But we lost touch about 5 years ago.

[Closer2]

Good job connecting with an old buddy. It's always nice to talk to someone and have a conversation that's not focused on D. I need to do more of that.

My best friend in HS grew up in Huntington, WV. I went with him once to visit family and friends. That place was crazy, I loved it.

[Sotto]

Errod, V has already done exactly what I was going to suggest....

Okay, let's have the specifics with these goals. What are you going to do by when and how often. And which of those are going to be this week, and so on...

But V has all the bases covered already!

BTW, I think if you don't want to talk to your W, you may just want to say you're busy for the rest of the day. Keep it light - hey, we'll need to do this another time. I've got a few things on today....and so on. Rather than telling her 'we've spoken enough.' If you wouldn't receive that well from her, she probably isn't going to from you either.

Looking forward to hearing how you put your goals into action Errod....:-)

[errod]

My biggest goals for this week are.

Get at least 1 listing or show at least 1 property.
Go out and socialize at least one time and make it longer then an hour
Eat 3 meals a day all week
Not chase or beg wife at all this week.


When I said what I said to her yesterday about us talking enough for the day it was just trying to show tough love. I don't think she took it to bad since she texted twice more afterwards and I answered her questions but kept it short.

[errod]

Today has been a great day so far. Woke up went to the gym. Then I got caught up on somethings on the DvR. Then I went for a walk around the park. I went and continued training W on how to handle the finances for the Dental office. I obtained one of my goals because I acted happy, we talked about people at the office and stuff like that. Things that we have not talked about in a while.

I now am home and have D14 with me. Our house that we are trying to sell is now in a bidding war. Lastly Wrestlemania is today. What a great day today has been!

[Sotto]

Good to hear Errod! Great days are a blessing indeed in our sitches. I think we appreciate them all the more.

Well done with W - sounds good keeping it light, being upbeat. Good luck on the house sale too!

[errod]

I confirmed my W is having some type of affair. I found an email from OM and a joint calendar they set up online. I then confronted the OM. He claims they are only friends and he is just giving his knowledge since he is recently divorced and how to go about it.

I do not know if for sure if they did anything. I also don't know if he is interested because he has a live in girlfriend. But I am positive my W his heads over heels for him.

I have to admit though since finding this information out things have been so much easier. I have not cried in two days. I went out with friends last night and have plans multiple other nights this week. I call people on the phone.

I confronted W yesterday afternoon after talking to OM. She admitted to going running with him and him helping her organize the D. I don't know or care who is telling the truth or lying. It ended with her saying I can't work on our marriage because I do not love you. Which makes sense you can't love two people.

I have not talked to her since then and actually don't even feel the urge to. I finally took off my wedding ring.

I am know finally 100% DBing. I needed confirmation to close that door. I am not saying I am not willing to work on our R is she comes to me and admits everything and says she is willing to. But at the same time I will be fine if she never does.

There is nothing I did in our marriage that can justify her having an affair. I can live with that now. I still do love her very much and am willing to reconcile even though it is going to take a lot of work. But I am ready to stand on my own two feet if it comes to that.

The friends that I reached out to on Saturday have been great. We talk for hours everyday and go there each night. I for the first time can say I am going to be alright either way.

[Vanilla]

Errod

((((((((Hugs)))))))

V

[MrBond]

I thought you said the guy has a live-in girlfriend. Has your W said she has feelings for him or that he has for her?