Toot de Suite!

[rd500]

Well done toots Scammers are the worst because the often prey on the unsuspecting. Stay strong. M

Take care. Rd

[Jefe]

Well, busy day for Toots. Away at work all day. The good news is, my current boss has offered me a job. Well, TBH he has been trying to 'reel me in' for a few months now, but I haven't felt able to commit. Anyway, he's offered me a 3 day post for a year, today. Two days working in the office (1.5 hours away) and a day WFH. I can see how far I've come as I drove home quite excited and think I'll say yes.

Went straight to parents to Mum-sit, only to find my Dad just wired £2k to a 'friend in trouble abroad.' As soon as I read the emails I knew it was a scam - arghh! Just spent a couple of hours on the phone to the police and money transfer people. Managed to stop the transfer before the money was collected, but my Dad lost the £75 transfer fee. He thinks I'm the hero of the hour now though!

Home again, bowl of soup and a glass of wine after a long day - catching up with my DB buddies. You know people ask who you would like to have to dinner, and I would always say the Dalai Lama, Maya Angelou and so on. Now, I would just say - my DB friends...

You are the "Hero of the Day"!

[Sotto]

Thanks for your kind comments guys. No more news from my Dad, but the wire transfer people said there could be an arrest if the scammers tried to pick up the transferred cash...so we'll see.

Bookstore GAL for me today. Busy in the store, and had some nice chats with other volunteers and customers. Had a nice bath when I got home and it's a quiet evening in for me. I didn't have the best sleep last night - thinking about this job offer - and how would that all work - in the middle of the night. Not helpful.

All quiet on the H front. Literally nothing from him since he said he needed a week to think - a week ago today. TBH, it hasn't been on my mind all that much and I've had a pretty pleasant week all in all. I guess I don't really feel his response back is going to be positive in terms of our M, so I'm resigned towards that already.

Mum GAL tomorrow. Dad is out for the afternoon, so the ladies get to hang out together, and aqua aerobics GAL in the evening. Hope you guys are all having a good weekend!

[Vanilla]

So, a work opportunity!

And you would like it too it seems.

I shall go and open another bottle to celebrate, there are still some frozen black currants somewhere.

Let's hope these scammers are caught, nasty sods!

V

[edz]

Hi toots

I think you're right to keep your expectations in check re h but I wouldn't count it as being bad news yet. While its true if so you can only be pleasantly surprised I often make the mistake of feeling blue as I've not heard anything or at least did I'm getting better at that now. It does seem you're much better at that than me though.

Sorry you had a bad night. Had similar issues and poor sleep really can mess with you over time. Nice warm bath, fresh sheets and gentle music (not TV) I find helps.

On the job offer front is it the travelling aspect? It does seem you have a great balance right now and I'd council not too give up too much if you don't need to (I used to commute 60+ miles a day once and it was OK for a while but does eat your life in free time being eroded and leaving you tired in the evening)

Hope Sunday is good for you, I'll check in later

Edz

[Sotto]

Thanks V and Edz. I've emailed my boss this morning to say that I'm interested. I'll either travel up, stay over and do two days together for them or travel up on two separate days. The travelling isn't too bad. I go a country way, which is very pretty. I think my hesitation was more anxiety - can I do this? Will it be too much for me? And so on.

In the middle of the night I said to myself - if I took off the 'fear' lenses, how would I feel about it? Good, was the answer. So I think I just need to manage the anxiety.

Fact is, my colleagues and I have been friends for years and they know all about my sitch, so it's going to be a supportive environment too. Much easier than starting afresh. I think it's good as a six month/one year plan, whilst things (hopefully!) resolve themselves. It will mean I can cover all living expenses without having to dip into savings too, which would be good.

Have a great Sunday! T x

[rd500]

Sounds like a great move Toots I hope you feel as strong as you sound. Take care. Rd

[twinmom]

Congrats on the job!

[jim0987]

Hi Toots.

Double well done on the scammers and the job. I suspect the Job will be good for you and clearly your boss thinks you'll nail it otherwise they wouldn't have offered you it.

Means you can use the savings for holidays instead

At the moment i'm reading a book by Chris Hadfield (Astronaut) and you mentioning fear lenses reminded me of some of the stuff he talks about. He has a really good TED talk about the difference between danger and fear, plus he's an astronaut and thats just the coolest job ever.

I hope you're enjoying the sunshine. Have a good day.

[Sotto]

Worked from home this morning. Need to finish off the project I've been working on as a freelancer before I get started on the multiple projects I'll have in the contracted role.

It's nice to feel more engaged and interested in work again. The work I've been doing past 7/8 months has been pretty 'routine' for me. Enough to pay the bills, and I was glad to have a low challenge period. But some of the stuff I'll be doing going forwards is going to stretch me more and I'm looking forward to that.

Absolute silence from H since I told him I loved him and D wouldn't be my choice, and he said he needed to think about things. Today I felt a bit annoyed that he just hadn't 'bothered' (mindreading) to get back to me.

Then I thought, Hmm - this is my problem. I have an 'expectation' that he will get back to me, because he said he needed a week to think and it's been over a week. So, I'm just trying to let go of the 'expectation' that he will respond - just need to keep moving forwards really....