Where to start. I met my wife when I was 15 and she was 13. We dated for 1 1/2 and ended up separating because I was young and wanted to experience other people. We stayed in contact and still hung out and ended up getting back together when I was 18 and she was 16. It wasn't long after we found out she was pregnant and had our first child. We married a year later and have been married for over six years now and have added 2 more children into the mix. During our marriage I reached out to another woman and had an emotional affair and it kills me to this day that I did this. Our marriage was struggling we were not giving eachother the love or time that we needed and I made a huge mistake. She battling an eating disorder that really has a strong hold on her and has turned her into someone she's not and I have depression issues and we both kinda just gave up. So she said she wanted a divorce met with a divorce attorney and everything. We talked and decided to work it out after a week. We started seeing a counselor and it was going good then I fell back into depression and stopped going and after about 8 months we were right back to not focusing on us and ended up separating again for about 2 1/2 weeks. We talked the whole time and seen another counselor and got back together again without fixing ourselves and our mental issues. Well we're now separated again and for the past 6 weeks and don't talk much at all. We had a huge fight and her eating disorder is honestly killing her. She's weighs somewhere around 85 lbs and stands 5"7'. I've reached out to try and support her and she will not really communicate with me at all and blames her whole eating disorder on me and has honestly told me she can not get better until we are divorced. She says I should have supported her when I had the opportunity and I know I should have but with my depression issues at an all time high dealing with 2 divorces and a wife who wouldn't let me help try to stop her eating disorder I admit I gave up and let her continue on the path out of fear she would blow up on me and divorce me. I love my wife to death and have said that we need to both get mentally healthy for ourselves and our children but I just want to help her through this issue because she's gotten worse since the separation and has now started puking her food back up and has to be monitored by her parents when she eats. She's went to a treatment facility twice and stats for a week and checks herself back out. I've thought about having her commited so that she's not able to check out whenever she wants but also scared she will hate me forever. I'm so lost, confused, depressed. I just want my wife and have no idea how to get her back. Please help
You may be on moderation now, post in small frequent replies and stay on this thread until you reach 100 posts (for your thread, you can also post on other peoples threads to give support). Especially on this Newcomers forum, where the posting activity is very active, and your posts can quickly fall to the bottom of the page or even several pages down. Keep journaling and asking questions - people will come! Most important - POST!
Get out and Get a Life (GAL). DETACH.
Believe none of what he or she says and half of what he/she does.
Have NO EXPECTATIONS.
Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.
Here are a few links to threads that will help you immensely:
