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Hang in there Nitty!


Me:42 W:41
M:12 T:3
D7, D7, S5
Sep#1 Winter 2012 for 4 months
W divorce bomb 6/9/14
Started "in-house separation" 7/2014
W files for D 8/28/14
I move out 9/27/14
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...and you thought I'd stop paying attention...

BTW checked out for a while because GAL = broken collarbone = surgery

Skiing is still a blast!

For Christmas this year I got a cool coffee mug from D22 and cash from my Mom.

But I had my kids and Christ. That's all I really need on that day, now.


Me: 43 XW: 43
T15 M14
D21, SS15, S11, D8
BD: 8/6
EA / possible PA discovered 9/29
D final 10/20
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Hello Nitty. Would you be interested to give us another update? It's been over a month.

I found your Christmas gift story to be interesting. It reminded me a lot of the "covert contracts" in No More Mr. Nice Guy. This book encourages everyone (especially nice guys...) to learn to have their needs fulfilled. You say "Don't give me anything", but you mean "Surprise me!" You give gifts, but you actually expect some in returns. If you want a love letter, just say so. I know next to nothing about your sitch, but from this little glimpse, it sounds like there's tremendous potential to improve your R by learning to state your needs. We men can be clueless without meaning to be hurtful.

Good luck.


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D 2016-09

"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
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Thanks for everybody's support and encouragement!

My new thread is here.


M:54, H:55
T:33, M:27
12/13 BD: EA
01/14 BD: PA, H leaves
03/14 H & OW break up
05/14 H says he will file for D
08/14 H initiates D
09/14 H wants to R
12/14 Still bungling our way through R
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