And way to go on finding something to do when your date was canceled.
Jbird
M 53 W 44 D25 D20 S22 PA 10/95 BD abt 2k EA BD 9/2004 PA D'd 1/05/05 DB'd 9/2004-08 PA ends 02/2005 XW rehab 03/2005 piecing until OM3 June?/2005 Remarried 12/28/07 BD 12/18/14 Sep living together
So I am still posting mostly so you can see there is life after a marriage ends and I check in and try to help others. I have been through two marriages in my 52 yrs and hopefully can share some helpful lessons I've learned along the way.
I had a great time at the convention last week. It was informative as well as lots of fun. We had a banquet that was themed "back to the 80's" I had so much fun styling my hair "big" like I used to back then. Lol
I am still in dating mode with my firefighter. He has been very sick though with bronchitis so I haven't seen him in person for almost two weeks.
I will share with you though how easily miscommunication can occur. He has been very good at keeping contact. He has been texting daily usually at least twice a day. I thought it was odd though that he hadn't tried to arrange a date this weekend and shared that with my girlfriend.
My friend jumped to the conclusion that he must be a player and should be asking me well before the weekend to go out. I said I don't think he's a player because there has been no ML between us just getting to know each other. She suggested I stop seeing him and tell him off. When he didn't respond to a text I sent for over 24 hrs I sent him a text asking if I had said or done something that upset him. This was advice given by my daughter who told me to ignore my friends advice. Lol. He then called me ( what's a phone call?lol) He had discovered his sister wasn't getting some of his text messages. She had called him when he hadn't gotten back to her. He then thought that maybe I too wasn't getting some of his messages so he called me. Sure enough I hadn't received quite a few messages. One was asking me about my plans for the weekend and another was telling me he was getting sicker instead of better and now had to go to the Dr. I thanked him for calling and clearing things up. He told me I want you to know....I like you a lot.....I want to keep seeing you...I'm not interested in anyone but you.
It just goes to show you that we cannot assume. If this had happened to my friend she would have told him off and written him off. He would have thought she was a freak and it would have all been based on miscommunication. I am thankfully my wise daughter was able to guide me. Lol What a switch! Hahaha.
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
Glad to hear you had a great time at your convention and that you're in a "good place"!
Jbird
M 53 W 44 D25 D20 S22 PA 10/95 BD abt 2k EA BD 9/2004 PA D'd 1/05/05 DB'd 9/2004-08 PA ends 02/2005 XW rehab 03/2005 piecing until OM3 June?/2005 Remarried 12/28/07 BD 12/18/14 Sep living together
The most famous miscommunication ever was 'send reinforcements we are going to advance' which ended up as 'send three and four pence we are going to a dance!'
You are wise to wait on the ML part. It throws reason from the window
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
Hi V...thx for chiming in. I like to take things slow and build a relationship. Otherwise attachments are formed when you don't really even know the person. We have had daily text chat. He is starting to feel better on antibiotics now from a sinus infection and bronchitis.
I can tell you it is nice though to find that days have gone by now without me thinking about my ex. It took me a long time to get to this place. I saw him the other day when I picked up my SD. I felt so much more detached than I have felt in the past. It was more like looking at someone I used to know.
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
Good your daughter is so smart and mature! Jumping to conclusions is never wise though understandable. Im glad he remains such a nice guy and that he has expressed his intentions so clearly. Must feel good. Though the detaching is hard and maybe irreversible, its also a good thing. You have your own life and if youlr H ever wants 'in' again he's going to have a lot of hard work to do. You dont need him. Well done. Hope what Im saying makes sense, :-)
Me: 36 Him: 36 DD: 3y DD2: 1.5mo Together: 5y Married: > 3y D: April 1st '15 after 1y of affairs
