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Hi 2bhappy,

I notice many postings wishing your H would do or say things differently. Thing is, he is who he is. I used to be the same way and was constantly disappointed. Have you read the love language book? It was really helpful for me. People show love in many different ways, it's learning to see them that is key. I also have experienced my H wanting me to be someone I am not. It's frustrating and hurtful.

In my next relationship, whomever it may be with, my goal will be:

Don't focus on what you are getting from your relationship, focus on what you are giving.

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Happy saturday everyone

Im working hard on being patience!!!!

So...I never dream or just never recall my dreams..but the last month I have been having dreams about H cheating...never ever had these before..maybe Im still to focused on my H...still watching the pot.

Im not snopping..no indications that H is cheating...but its on my mind and in my nightmares. ..

Got tons of GAL each weekend...off to start my day...my focus is loving me..being a better person each day


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Meligh.

Yes I read that book and thanks for the reminder I do need to keep in mind that my H and I speak different love language.

I will pay attention to what energy I putting out.


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Wow...
Afternoon nap and I dreamed I was caught cheating by my H and s14.

I have never dreamed during a nap..

This is too much on my mind.

H initiated a kiss before he went to work...it was just us...

Off to midnight bowling..this weekend GAL


Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015)
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So I paying attention to lil things...not watching pot as much but wanting to notice positives...

H has been giving good bye kisses daily (use to only when s14 was present)


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Baby steps! It's good to see a positive today.


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The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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While watching a TV show (with a soundtrack) together last week, I jokingly said to H...I want that soundtrack can you get it for me. H said nothing...I did want the soundtrack but I was joking in asking H to get it for me.

Welll,,,fast forward to this morning, as I'm leaving for work H tells me he has a CD for me on the table..I say thanks no idea what it is,,,

its the soundtrack CD I was talking about from last week.

WOW..It's great songs on it, I sent H a text Thanks, told him the songs are great and I can't wait to have s14 listen to it with me...

I wanted to say that I also could not wait for H to listen to it with me,,but I did not want to pursue....

I will make sure to play it next time we are all in the house together this weekend.


Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015)
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M 2007 T 1996
S 14
July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son
Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW
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Baby steps! See, when you mention something in a casual way...look what happens! I'm glad to see that you thanked him for doing it for you.


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Originally Posted By: 2BHappy
I wanted to say that I also could not wait for H to listen to it with me,,but I did not want to pursue....

I will make sure to play it next time we are all in the house together this weekend.


Just a word from a guy here:

Don't overplay the hell out of it. wink


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Job..thanks

Wounded...i will not play it to death..


Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015)
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S 14
July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son
Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW
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