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Excellent point. I don't think she really does. She probably even thinks we can be 'friends'.
What can I do?


Me 32 (German) Wife 28
T 3yrs M 2yrs
Moved to US for W
No kids
BD 6/2014
In house separation
Confirmed EA 1/2015
(ongoing since BD)
OM not ready
Real D talk started 1/27/15


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Originally Posted By: Complex
Excellent point. I don't think she really does. She probably even thinks we can be 'friends'.


In 11 years and over 25,000 posts on this forum, I have yet to see a marriage come back from infidelity without the wayward spouse credibly fearing that they'd gone too far, and were losing (or had already lost) their betrayed spouse. Not long-term, anyway (I've seen some false reconciliations that didn't "stick").


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BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07

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What else can I do Starsky to show her she's lost me?

I don't look back - we are in D proceedings- she had moved out- I do known thing with me and kids - travel, take trips, all of which I would have never done before.

I think she knows she's gone too far but really is too entrenched to back out now.

I guess I will just keep on keeping on - trying to build a better me . If she notices it not , if she thinks she's really lost me or not.

Is this right?


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What else can I do Starsky to show her she's lost me?

I don't look back - we are in D proceedings- she had moved out- I do known thing with me and kids - travel, take trips, all of which I would have never done before.

I think she knows she's gone too far but really is too entrenched to back out now.

I guess I will just keep on keeping on - trying to build a better me . If she notices it not , if she thinks she's really lost me or not.

Is this right?


Ignore her. Don't worry about what she thinks. I wouldn't go out of my way to make sure she knows, because that is trying to get her attention.

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