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Mach1 #2541448 02/23/15 05:52 PM
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Tad,

Not going to give you any crap here. : )

It is hard for me to reconcile the person you say you used to be with the person I have read about. That's a pretty fur bit as some would say.

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I'm just so sick and tired of the way things have "turned out." I don't know.....sometimes I think that I am on the verge of going through "something" myself.


I hope so. I think the guy you used to be would like nothing more than to slap himself awake.

Gunshy might be safer...but it seems like that condition is always afraid or timid or coming up with some reason not to experience life. Gunshy always seemed to me to be existing...not living, you know?

For instance, and btw I know this won't happen, hell I'm not even sure I would do this. Go up to your friend, kiss her in one of those deep dips from the 1950's and say."I know you don't date co-workers, so I just quit."

Ok...4 fingers of Lagavulin and a pair of working legs and I would. : ) Maybe 5.



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Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

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Tad,

You've been awfully quiet lately and I am getting a bit worried about you.

Please drop a line when you can...hope you're doing okay.

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Ditto


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Thanks everyone.

I'm still here...just been a little different/off/down lately.

My little fur baby is hanging in there. She has been sleeping probably 18-20 hours a day. She's just so old...I may have to put her to sleep soon. She has a little tumor under her arm. I've been watching it closely. I DO NOT want to have to do this...

Been witnessing S22 argue with XW for the past 2 weeks (yes 2 weeks) over the OM. She keeps telling him to "take it like a man", "accept it", "it's time", "you don't have to be his buddy...just meet him", "shake his hand", blah blah blah. I have four sons. The youngest and oldest were "forced" (their words) to meet him. The two middle ones have not. It is really starting to bug her I think. None of this turned out the way she had planned.

I joined a dating site last week. I've had quite a few nibbles, but nothing that I'm really interested in.

As mentioned, been somewhat blue lately. Can't seem to shake it. Thanks for your concern.

Tad


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M 56 XW 57
Sons 38,33,31,29

The Sitch:
Married 26 years
EA w/ OM 9/10
Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary)
Sep 12/10
She wants D 1/11
W files 5/11
D final 10/11
XW marries OM 6/13
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Glad to hear from you, Tad.

Different? Different how?

Somewhat blue? I know I've been like that before. Just the blahs. In some cases you can shake it by changing your routine. In others, you might need a little help from a friend (doc). Been checked out lately (by a doc?)

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Ok...4 fingers of Lagavulin and a pair of working legs and I would. : ) Maybe 5.
Ah, oaky and smokey, eh Jack? And I think you're selling yourself short. With a little thought, you could make it work...and you really only need two fingers, if you space them out far enough wink

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Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
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Thanks AJ. No, I haven't been to see an actual doctor since my mom insisted I see her doctor a couple of years ago. He was the one that put me on anti depressants. I don't even "have" a doctor. I'm going to get my eyes checked next week because they have really gone downhill in the last few months. Once that is done, I need to find a joint doctor. I can rarely move the thumb on my right hand without pain. It getting where I can't squeeze anything.

Sometimes, I think I am falling apart at the seams.

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Different? Different how?


I don't know AJ. I can't really explain it.

Tad


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M 56 XW 57
Sons 38,33,31,29

The Sitch:
Married 26 years
EA w/ OM 9/10
Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary)
Sep 12/10
She wants D 1/11
W files 5/11
D final 10/11
XW marries OM 6/13
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Hi Tad, Your Quote 'I think I am falling apart at the seams'.

My Reply, A Song By (The) Marmalade

'Falling Apart At The Seams'


Yoooooooooou

Until you came, it felt like my world -
Was fallin' apart at the seams -
All of my childhood dreams, were empty and meaningless
Until we kissed, seemed like the rain
Was turnin' my hopes into sand
Oh, I was a yesterday man, until I found you

It was as plain as the nose on my face -
That I was, heading nowhere
Then into my life came an angel of grace
Sunlight in her hair
Now love is the strangest emotion
'Cause just when I want you to stay
Seems like you're changing, don't turn me away
(Don't turn me away)

Until you came, felt like my world -
Was fallin' apart at the seams -
All of my childhood dreams, were empty and meaningless
Until we kissed seemed like the rain
Was turnin' my hopes into sand
Oh, I was a yesterday man until I found yoooooooooou

I'm like a man in a mantle of black
Who just saw the light
Who cast off the shadow, when you gave him back,
The meaning to life
Now love is the strangest emotion
'Cause just when I want you to stay
Seems like you're changing, don't turn me away
(I want you to stay)

Until you came, felt like my world -
Was fallin' apart at the seams -
All of my childhood dreams, were empty and meaningless (Oh yes)
Until we kissed, seemed like the rain
Was turnin' my hopes into sand
Oh, I was a yesterday man until I found yooooou

Love

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Tad,

Go and see a doctor. You're slipping into depression again with no friends and all you're doing is concentrating on your W's life and not yours.


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Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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Yeah Tad. Go see a doc. Don't wait for it - make the appointment for the regular doc and checkup. Make it the priority. The hand will wait or you can do both.

Overall, it sounds like things are improving for you. Working again. Have the option of seeing a healthcare provider. Thinking about the ladies. But don't play with your health or make it a low priority. The eye appt is already made. So make a regular appointment to get a full check up. Just do it smile

AJ


"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK
Put the glass down...
"Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world
Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
AJM #2546348 03/10/15 07:19 PM
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Dating sites?

My man!

Those nibbles? Talk to them, engage get some experience on how to talk and chat under your belt get some practice, I'm not saying anything has to happen I'm saying get your confidence up when talking to members of the opposite sex...

wait a sec...it is the opposite sex right? No judgements if so...might actually be easier. : )

Ultimately learning how to talk to women...confidently will help you out a lot Tad.



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Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK

TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet

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