Thank you so much you always have a good and enlightening way of putting things. i will shorten it up a little bit more, But all in all i have been prepping myself for this moment and i am at peace with this. and i am ready to begin my journey. thank you.
The latter. If you hover, it looks like you're hanging around for a response, and that what you just said was merely a TACTIC. If you end it and leave not LOOKING for any response, it conveys more that this is how you feel REGARDLESS of if or how she reacts.
HEAR THIS^^^...
Waiting for her to say anything, will reveal this "letting go" to be a ruse.
Don't do this at all, if you are not ready for her to accept it at face value and say "good, thanks", AND OR for her to react in anger and blame AND OR with indifference. This is about you letting her go.
You seem to have the need to say it, rather than simply doing it. That's fine.
IF you are ready for the above reactions (or lack of any visible one) and ONLY IF YOU ARE READY for that,
then do this.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
[quote=RysinMn]Thank you so much you always have a good and enlightening way of putting things. i will shorten it up a little bit more, But all in all i have been prepping myself for this moment and i am at peace with this. and i am ready to begin my journey. thank you. [/quote Well okay then! Life will get better, and that's something I'm positive of.
GOOD LUCK!
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Thank you... Like i said. I am letting go not giving up! I am putting this into fates hands and i am ready to live for me and better myself and see what comes my way. I love her enough to let her go. and i really am at peace with it. thank you again.
Thank you... Like i said. I am letting go not giving up! I am putting this into fates hands and i am ready to live for me and better myself and see what comes my way. I love her enough to let her go. and i really am at peace with it. thank you again.
What was "wrong" with you in the first place. There may well have been nothing wrong except you put too much stock in her and too little in yourself. Enjoy your life and do things you really want to do. And yes, being cheated on is a great time to go after self improvement efforts.
You might not get your wife back, but with enough self esteem and awareness you may very well receive a woman who appreciates a man like you, and is also good for you.
Thank you... Like i said. I am letting go not giving up! I am putting this into fates hands and i am ready to live for me and better myself and see what comes my way. I love her enough to let her go. and i really am at peace with it. thank you again.
You're very welcome. FTR, if you decide to make the military a career, talk about extended separations with any woman you consider marrying. Along with moving every 2-4 years...it's not for everyone and that's alright. But it's really crucial to know.
Also, your words above, ^^ could be your new mantra. It's close to what I told myself back in 2006-/08.
I'd carry around a few phrases that comforted and guided me, like short prayers & pep talks. Especially right before I thought h would contact me.
And,
I turned it over to God. Yes, sometimes I'd "take it back" from Him the next day, but the next day/hour, I'd force myself to again turn it over.
In the end, if we KNOW we have done our best to become our best, that just has to be enough.
Learning to let go and walk away with your head held high, at peace - regardless of outcome, is an incredible gift to give yourself.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
You two are on a roll today. Just reading helps a lot sometimes. Time for a new thread Rysin! Never forget too: God does NOT want divorce! He is your greatest supporter of all.
Me 32 (German) Wife 28 T 3yrs M 2yrs Moved to US for W No kids BD 6/2014 In house separation Confirmed EA 1/2015 (ongoing since BD) OM not ready Real D talk started 1/27/15
"Learning to let go and walk away with your head held high, at peace - regardless of outcome, is an incredible gift to give yourself."
Isn't it just Rysin, isn't it just? Dealing with that kind of pain and getting to that kind of place are indeed great gifts in life. Good luck to you my friend...((Rysin))
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
