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Originally Posted By: MrBond
So in DB terms, what changes are you making to get a positive response from her?


The housework for sure.
And taking initiative when it comes to the kids.


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As Cadet said, we live in a no fault state.

I've pretty much found proof of an EA. Just need the guys name.


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I have another question. I do about 95% of the cooking in the house. And I usually make enough food for everyone. Lately, the W has made it a habit to avoid eating with us. She'll either eat while standing in the kitchen or wolf down her food as fast as she can and leave. She does this without even a "Thank you" or any other compliment.

Friends have told me to stop cooking for her and only make sure that I and the boys eat. Should I do that?


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Forget my last question. It is not in my character to behave that way.


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No problem Leon. I think it's up to you anyways - but I can't see anyone complaining "my H - he's terrible - cooks for me every night - just awful!"

Do what you think is right. If you're doubtful, you could always say - hey, I'm making fajitas for me and the kids - want some?


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Thanks, Toots. She usually agrees to eat whatever I am making.

Also, she forgot her phone at home this morning when she took the kids to school. I had about 20 minutes to check it and found nothing new other than one contact named Juan.


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How convenient.


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I have IC today so I'll ask her about it the cooking deal.


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Originally Posted By: Starsky309
How convenient.


I am thinking this Juan is the guy. Lots of circumstantial evidence, but hear me out.

He is listed as a suggested friend on the W's secret FB account. His FB page has very little information. It appears that he does have a kid though. And he has a friend that is listed as working at my W's job. And his picture looks a lot like the ones on her phone. Again, the pictures on the phone are not clear, but they do look a lot a like.

Must continue to gather evidence though. I got a gift this morning though.


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My IC suggested that I confront the W about her eating by using an "I" word. For example: "I feel unappreciated when you eat and don't even acknowledge that I cooked for you." If the W snaps at me and says "You don't have to cook for me", then I have my answer.

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