I don't even know what tipps to give you. I'm struggling a lot myself. GAL is key. Force yourself! Other than that, only time will help you. I recently started to try to 'picture' my life without her, what I'll do, where I will go, how I can follow some of my dreams again. It feels empty tho. I'm glad to be out of town for work again, with some fun people. Good forced GAL^^
Me 32 (German) Wife 28 T 3yrs M 2yrs Moved to US for W No kids BD 6/2014 In house separation Confirmed EA 1/2015 (ongoing since BD) OM not ready Real D talk started 1/27/15
No worries. Also try to do something you always wanted to do, whatever it is, skydiving, go cart racing or just go to that one restaurant/bar around the corner that you've never been to, go try karate, travel some place. Anything. Just create a GAL goal and follow through. It'll feel very good. How are things going over there on Hawaii? Are you actually still functional in your job etc? Or do you underperform? I'm def not performing the way I could/should...
Me 32 (German) Wife 28 T 3yrs M 2yrs Moved to US for W No kids BD 6/2014 In house separation Confirmed EA 1/2015 (ongoing since BD) OM not ready Real D talk started 1/27/15
I am doing my best, it's hard when everything I have wanted to do so far besides those major trips we have done together. But I'll keep digging. Yeah as far as my job goes.... it's not good! I can't think, or remember anything. Sometimes that feeling overwhelms me and I need to leave just to regroup. I have never gone through something like this and I mean that in every aspect. I never knew I could feel like this. Such a jacked up way to find out your marriage is not as amazing and perfect as you thought. Anyhow hope your on the path and begin to feel a tiny bit better.
I can completely empathise with you. My every waking moment is consumed by this but you have to believe that in time it will get better. Time is a great healer.
Me:40 W:35 D:8 T:13 M:10 WAW: 7/14 PA Discovered: 1/15 at least 6 months Moved out and moved on
Rysin, I don't know if you like to read. And in fact, a lot of folks would encourage you to keep your nose out of so many books or articles because that keeps your head in your sitch instead of helping you get out to GAL. But at least for me, I gobbled up any book and every article I could possibly get my hands on while H was wayward. It really helped me understand things better. And it passed time. And it kept my mind and me from feeling "idle" and thereby dreaming up reasons I "needed" to contact H.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
GAL is definitely good for the soul. I've read so much about relationships and affairs I feel like I have a bloody degree on the subject. It does make me feel better though. Which is what I need for now
Me:40 W:35 D:8 T:13 M:10 WAW: 7/14 PA Discovered: 1/15 at least 6 months Moved out and moved on
I love to read as well and I am excited to get home and read the DB book. I have read afew others about relationships. But I know I need to continue to gal and move forward. I am trying and I can't see it now but I know to does help. Thank you all for the advice.
Good morning everyone, it has officially been a week since hearing from W is there any info or input on the time table when separating how soon the anger will start to fade? I know might be a weird question and not sure why I woke up thinking this but I did.
