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Hi gg,
Any time you want a cyber coffee I'm your man smile


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M 13 years, T 15
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Edz

Detatch dear friend. None of it matters in the longer term, and most of what our waywards do is : well it's wayward.

V would discuss this with her H. H what is going on? How will this affect X?

If V does not get a satisfactory reply then she would say H, I must now draw my own conclusions.

I am sad for you about this, Edz, if it is true then you have no control so let it be. Detatch.

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Thanks v smile


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You know my convent suggestion is sounding more and more plausible.

Thanks for answering the questions. I hope it wasnt too awkward

V is right detachment is key here for a bunch of reasons

given what you've said it may be that you need to give Mr Fixit your reconcilliation hope to play with for a while and put them both safely in that box (where you can easily find them if you need to).

If 'it' doesnt affect your relationship with your S and wont compromise your ability to be a friend then focusing on these positives and the improving warmth with your W have got to be good all round.

Whether you knew about 'it' or not i suspect your short term goals would be pretty similar and so work out what these could be and concentrate on those

I think its 25 that posts this but it seems apt 'Dont borrow problems from tomorrow, today has enough already'


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Thanks Jim yes short term not much changes. Long term well ultimately w will do what's best for her and s we'll just have to see.


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M 13 years, T 15
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W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014
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Milks heating coffee getting there!

I think not borrowing trouble is good. It looks like a have a few guys warming up, not one ask yet either.

Will any suit, who knows but I'm feeling uncomfotable about being friends with all of them.
I'm spinning the whole will it be cheating to have dinners with each? Will it be bad to go out as a group like Sunday dinner having a few male friends. Who may or may not become new partner.

Would it be like a bunch of ea? Mmmmm something I think will never Happen, never has before!

Not sure even why I'm worried.

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Morning GG, yup coffee on the brew here too

Thanks, yes I cant do anything about it other than worry or overreact so for now its in the box..

As to multiple coffee / dinner dates - hmm - dating views vary between us / uk / aus and also of course age groups. Sure what the 20 somethings now do I'd baulk at (or chance would be...ahem, where was I?)

You know what you're comfortable with, do that (behave!)

EA? You talking to H or multiple dates?

If the latter not really unless you make a commitment to one of them and want to see more of that person (steady GG! you know what I meant)

Off to check on coffee


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But you see what I mean about borrowing trouble.

Nothing's has happened yet, who knows all guys might be just friendly and will never do the whole, ask out for coffee.

I have jumped in a way to omg what's ok? Don't seem to know what I find ok, see what I mean.


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Oh yes, easy to do at the best of the times when someone's been through the kind of sitches we here have it starts to become an oh god what's coming up next scenario!


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BD:23/7/2014
W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014
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Ah coffees ready...


M:44, W:46, S:10
M 13 years, T 15
BD:23/7/2014
W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014
My new place: 21/11/2014
W/S back to flat 22/11/2014
W coming closer, talking 4/2015
Piecing 5/2015
Moving in again 6/2015
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