I'm back. I signed divorce papers on Friday. I closed on the house on Saturday morning. I had three friends come over. We then went to the mountains. We started hiking Saturday afternoon, slept in a cabin on the trail, and tried to summit on Sunday. We didn't unfortunately, the weather conditions were too much, -42 degrees, NW wind of 76 mph with gusts up to 82. It was exhilarating. We had a great time even though it was harsh conditions. I am now on business travel until Wed. And then this weekend I am going to pick up the kids and head to my sister's for Super Bowl weekend.
While we were signing, I made her laugh multiple times with jokes or stories about the kids. Then I agreed to take the papers to the court, and I brought them. Not her. I thought that was interesting.
Another interesting piece. We started officially dating after I returned from a 24 day backpacking trip in Costa Rica (she picked me up from the airport). That was 9 years to the day we divorced. Irony... I'm starting to think not.
Squiggy & Lost... thanks for looking out for me. I appreciate it!
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
Sorry to hear about the D, but then again, you handled it with style! Wish I could have been on that backpacking trip! Sounds right up my alley. I'm dying for spring and the chance to break out my hammock. Got a nice warm new sleeping bag from my FIL that I can't wait to try out.
You'll be fine in the end. I don't have to tell you that. I wish you the best of luck in all things, mahhhty.
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M: 8.5 T:10 Me:37 W:34 S:6
Retrouvaille and W moves back- 7/31/15 Piecing - 7/4/15 to present
The trip was awesome, and it was very therapeutic. Headed back from my business trip today, and picking up the kids! I am super excited to see them!
I am detaching more, GAL'ing more, focusing on me more and my relationship with the munchkins. I need to get my life on track. I am using my gift of time.
However, I guess I never thought that just b/c there is a D that something had to change. I am still considering myself in the LRT club.
Hope is not lost until I choose to no longer have hope.
I don't know what life will have in store for me. But as of today, this is my opinion and my plan has not changed.
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
However, I guess I never thought that just b/c there is a D that something had to change. I am still considering myself in the LRT club.
Hope is not lost until I choose to no longer have hope.
I don't know what life will have in store for me. But as of today, this is my opinion and my plan has not changed.
I really admire this mahhhty. Keep DBing until either you are in a better place and/or you no longer choose to have hope for R between you and your W. Looking forward to following and reading about this next chapter in your life!
ME: 28 W: 24 M: 2.5yrs T: 5yrs BD: 22 SEP 14 W Leaves: 5 OCT 14
Mozza, TLE, Squiggy, Bravo, and last but definitely not least, Lost, Thank you all for checking in.
I've been busy lately, with work travel, headed out of state for a long weekend with the munchkins to their cousin's, and working to wrap things up (divorce paperwork, loan for STBX, canceling all bills in her name, etc).
I have definitely been detaching, and I feel as if she is starting to feel it. Unfortunately, working out took a back seat over this little break, but I am going to resume the routine today. She has reached out to me almost every day (via text or email, never a call) with some sort of required action or piece of information. I keep responses light and short. I have no idea of what if anything she is doing with her life, she is not forthcoming with any information, has totally withdrawn from all social media and does not press me for any information about my life. I have also received a lot of buy-in on my startup, which is great to occupy my time when alone, and help me get to the point of working on my passion and not for the man.
I am going to revisit my 180s. Re-read DR. Re-read the Solo Partner. Re-read Talk to Me Like Someone You Love. And work the miscellaneous odds and ends. I have not sent her the letter. I will revisit that with my IC tomorrow. I also have not adjusted my Facebook relationship status. I have been waiting for her to do that. I wonder if I should bite the bullet?
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
mahhty, changing social status on FB will create some postings from friends and all that stuff. Just make your status private, so you only see it. No one will notice. I did mine a few weeks ago. I am as lost as you as to what to do now. Continue 180's. Get out and stay social. Not dating, but be with friends. Have fun, stay positive. Something that has helped me, since the D day....Corey Wayne. Look him up, re-read all the DB stuff, stay here and ask questions...journal....read on this forum. Several of us have similar stories and are here to attempt help.
Me43/WAW43..M 4y..S1 11/S2 4..Bomb2/2014..Dfile 5/2014..Settlement signed 8/20/14..D final 8/29/14 I moved out 10/10/14..WAW got D she wanted. I wanted R. No waiting,just no boundaries in her way.
I'm so glad to hear that you are not stopping working on yourself despite the pending D. You are a strong person and will continue to soar upwards. Be careful of the hope and take it one day at a time. Things will fall into place as long as you continue to work hard and strive to become the man you are meant to be.
Grats on the startup! I hope to own a group private practice at some point, and the fear of putting myself out there is difficult to overcome. Glad to see it's working out for you.
What are the 180s and goals you plan to do at this point?
M: 8.5 T:10 Me:37 W:34 S:6
Retrouvaille and W moves back- 7/31/15 Piecing - 7/4/15 to present
