I was pretty bummed about my friend not going to lunch with me, but that's ok. I honestly think she is just being cautious. I'm 12 years older than her, I'm a coworker (she doesn't date coworkers), and she knows I have a lot of baggage. She told me tonight though that I'm much "sexier" since I quit smoking. See what I mean though about mixed signals?????? Geez.... I just wish she would give me a chance. We have TONS in common. Who knows.....
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However, the self esteem does take quite a shot from this.
You're telling me.....
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Tad, you are doing great. I know it doesn't always feel that way, but you really are and have come a long way. A very long way from where you started, amigo. It's not time to take the pack off yet though.
Thanks dude.
Tad
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
* "Friend" could not make it to lunch. She said she was too busy. Whatever. I won't ask again.
Whatever?
Did you forget:
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She would get back to me. She said she had some things going on, but that she would let me know.
She had some things going on She even told you.
Are you familiar with the Fox and Grapes Fable? Please look it up.
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I see some beautiful women that are married/dating guys and wonder what the Hell did she see in him?
Off the top of my head? Confidence.
Tad, you remind me of Eeyore the donkey from Winnie the Pooh. And while he is one of my favorite character, there is no way I would ever want to date or hang out with him for long periods of time too depressing and no matter how anyone tries to cheer him up he is determined no to.
How much of this comes through with other people in real life? Is their an underlying despondency that people can pick up on? Cause that might be something to look hard at.
She said no, she had things come up.
That is one strike.
Most people get two.
And do not put so much meaning on this, its just lunch. The bigger you make this the more pressure there is on grabbing a bite to eat.
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And do not put so much meaning on this, its just lunch. The bigger you make this the more pressure there is on grabbing a bite to eat.
Exactly. Yeah, just lunch. No biggie. Don't just give up and throw up your arms just because of a little word "no." Perhaps the timing was off for her...hadn't you thought of that?
Jack, I have not heard of that fable, but will look it up.
Wonka, I hadn't thought of that, but was kind of expecting a "no" just because that's the way everything seems to go for me.
Mrbond, I'm no longer seeing a therapist. My employer paid for 8 sessions. The depression? Yeah it comes and goes.
Just a quick update:
My little rat continues to do well but....I found a tumor on her yesterday. Tumors are fairly common in female rats. This one is in her armpit. I'm not sure what I should do. I should probably get it removed, but she is just so old. I don't want to put her through a surgery. I'm going to keep a close eye on it.
I may take a break from the board for a while. I don't really want to, but I suspect (as I've suspected before) that XW has been reading here. It's just a feeling from things the boys have told me. There are things that she has said that she wouldn't know unless she has read it here.
My "friend" still has great conversations with me. I'm going to lay low on that front as well.
Tad
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
My other little rattie is dying. I came home from work this morning and she is very weak and stumbling whenever she walks. She spent the entire day today on my chest watching the Super Bowl with me. I think her body is shutting down. I doubt she will make it through the night.
Just wanted to tell someone. Feeling sad.
Tad
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
Sorry to hear about your little friend Tad. It is amazing how even animals can get attached to each other. Your little friend may, above all else miss her companion. Mirrors us alot.
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Tad, I'm sorry to hear about your little pet. They come into our lives for a period of time and they help us through the good and the bad times.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Tad, you need to talk to someone. Get help. There are a number of free resources. And definitely don't stop posting here. Who cares if your XW is on here? She is your EX! Not your W anymore.
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Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Tad, Please listen to Mr. Bond. You need to talk to someone and you need to continue posting here. As for the xh, who cares if she's reading? If you are concerned about what she sees here, change your poster name. We'll figure out who you are.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
