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So I arrive home from work H and S14 leaving in car, S14 stops to say Hello to me, we speak and I speak to H and I go into house.

Phone rings H wants to know my plans for dinner , I tell him I planned to add some meat to left over sides, H wants to go out to dinner,,

Said he would be right back they had already left street, he calls from s14 phone and is on speaker..

I call back to H cell and tell him they are already out and to just go on to eat dinner,,H says he does not think s14 would like that. to eat dinner without me..

SO if I had just been a little later getting home they would have been gone without inviting me.

Now that s14 has seen I'm home H feels like he must invite me out to dinner with them?

GAMES,,,H is toooo old to be playing games.

H could have made it a father and son thing, just them hanging out eating and talking!!!!

But listen up ladies, I quickly changed out of "work clothes" put on best fitting jeans, cute top, banging heels made sure to fix hair put on lipstick,,and I'm ready to roll....let the games begin!!!


Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015)
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I'm glad you opted to go. Your son may have wanted you to go along just because he's still trying to figure things out. At least your son has manners if he was the one that wanted you to go along.

No one knows what really goes on in the minds of the mlcers...but they do love to play games. So, let's see how the games play out in the near future.

I hope you enjoyed the evening meal.


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We had a great dinner with lots of laughs and talking, they were "ganging" up on me, I was the "butt of the jokes" but I loved it.

After dinner we had "family time movie" S14 feel asleep. after movie I went to get ready for bed, s14 went to bed.

H invited me to come back and watch TV with him and have a latenight cocktail. I did and we had a nice time, just general conversation.

H hinted that He also wanted me to go to dinner with them, but I could tell he did not want to admit to that?

H had on everything I got for him for christma: pants,shoes, cologne..just an observation. I told him he looked very nice, he smiled and said thank you (smiles from him to me have been few and far between). And honestly REAL smiles from me to him have been few and way far between. And I caught myself smiling last night...

BUT don't get it twisted, I know to look and watch for small steps and appreciate those, but I know we still have a very long way to go.

I enjoyed last night but I will leave it at that!


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2BHappy, sounds like a great night! I'm glad it went well smile


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Originally Posted By: 2BHappy
I enjoyed last night but I will leave it at that!


Excellent! Enjoy it for what it was: a good time. No more, no less.

So... what kind of GAL's are you doing the next few days?


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GAL's for next few days= ?
I dont have anything planned for this week just for me other then focusing on myself a little more, asking myself what do I need to do for me today?

Wounded your GAL questions,,,I feel like you are referring to deeper things then outings with friends? I know I've asked this before?

GAL of losing this extra weight this year!!
GAL of taking time to "stop and smell the roses".
GAL's monthly outing with girlfriends.
GAL of doing some home updates (yes this is for me, things I want to learn how to do)
1 GAL trip planning in process for my birthday.
2 trips planning in process for s14 and I (H will be invited with no expectations).


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Originally Posted By: 2BHappy
Wounded your GAL questions,,,I feel like you are referring to deeper things then outings with friends? I know I've asked this before?


Just keeping you in check, I don't want your mind to begin to wander, because you hadn't been doing them.

Tell me about the home update GAL?


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Home updates= refinish kitchen cabinets and all wood inside doors, repair or replace a couple of closets doors (continue to come off track), paint inside garage, after deck is repaired, paint the deck. Some of these things will involved s14 and maybe H, but most I plan to do myself, weekend warrior:)

I have GAL planned monthly with friends some months each weekend, in March my bday month, I did something every weekend last year and really enjoyed it and will do the same this March.

Daily GAL= LOVE MYSELF, and let my actions and thoughts prove that. Take better care of myself mentally and physically.


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2B I love your daily GAL goal- love ourselves and let our actions and thoughts prove it. What a wonderful way to keep the focus!

Sounds like you are doing well and out of the funk you were in before. I'm glad to see that. Keep going forward you are doing awesome!!


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SO for the longest in our R my H LOVED for us to match clothes when we went out or had company. It was cute early in our R but got real old to me really quick.

This has not been requested in a long long time even before BD (probably due to my attitude when he did request with the "I'm wearing this do you have anything to match it".

So anyway today on his off day he has invited some friends over for dinner...

I come home from work, and go to change my clothes, H has on camo jeans and a tshirt...he ask me if Im putting on my camo jeans and a tshirt, now mind you our camo jeans are different colors camo and I dont have the same tshirt, but he has a 2nd tshirt that is too little for him (thank GOD I can wear it) same as his pretty much and wants me to wear it with my camo jeans...

So briefly I ask H well what about my other jeans,,he says naw they dont fit you as well...DUH they fit the same,,anyway

I will put on my camo jeans AND the non matching tshirt, I figure its only clothes, we are at home and these are some of his friends (I know them but its his male friend and his son)

Maybe he is peeking out of the tunnel, or maybe he is testing me to see if I'm still there?

Either way,,it will not kill me to not match and he ask, so I will wear this outfit he has selected so WE can match in camo jeans and tshirts.

I wonder if S14 will have to wear his camo jeans and a tshirt for dinner?


Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015)
H 51 (ring off 7/2013)
M 2007 T 1996
S 14
July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son
Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW
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