I'm glad the girls returned and they had a wonderful surprise upon their return w/the Christmas preparations.
So, he gave you a Christmas card. Maybe he is thawing out just a little bit this year. At least he gave you a few photos of the girls in front of his Christmas tree. Hopefully next year will be better for all (at least we can hope, right?).
Now, it's time to turn your attention to your trip to Disney. The most magical and fun place to go. You and the girls will have a wonderful time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
We are so excited to go to Disney. It is going to be amazing. I can't even believe we are going.
I sometimes forget that the old me would never have gone to Disney. Its so frivolous and silly. I would have never made the time or "wasted" the money.
Yay for the new me.
I hope my last post didn't come off like I am obsessing with his christmas card, I definitely am not (actually being on Prozac I am rarely obsessed with anything anymore - its great!)
But I did want to make note of the Christmas card on my thread because it is a Huge thing. And definitely a sign of thawing and definitely nice to get pictures of the girls by his tree.
We are having a very wonderful holiday thus far, I am so happy and blessed.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
We did Disney earlier this year and had a blast. Jan is a great time to go! Have fun. You guys will love it:-)
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
I am happy to read that you and the girls are having a fabulous time. Yes, Disney is awesome!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I had a meeting at school today regarding my first graders speech problem. Totally unexpectedly towards the end of the meeting her main teacher not speech teacher said because she is behind in reading she may get left back. I completely disagree with this assessment.
(Also her main teacher just came back from maternity leave and has only been her teacher since thanksgiving! - she barely knows my daughter)
I then texted exh about it looking for support and asked if he could write a follow email to the teachers to find out what we can do to support our d6. I thought I was too emotional and pissed to write the email. He called me back and said that I should write the email since I was at the meeting. Then he said I forgot to fill out a form online to complete the split of the brokerage account and if I could do that right away cause he needs that money.
I was literally crying cause my daughter might get left back and he is just thinking about $$.
Trust me I have 0 expectation that he would do anything for me but sometimes I still have expectations that he act like a dad
It's hard not having a partner when you are raising kids. It's hard to know when I am over reacting. It helps to have a sounding board. Luckily my sister is a teacher and I have other mom friends and I have you guys and I have alAnon.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
Bklyn, I dealt with similar issues with my daughter when she was young. Finally, when she was entering fifth grade, we moved and I decided to enroll her in fourth grade instead, voluntarily holding her back. It was the best decision I could have made. She wasn't far behind her peers, but she did struggle a bit and just needed more time to be ready to handle the content. That extra year made all the difference, and I wish I had done it earlier, as she might have gotten more out of her early elementary years, being more prepared and mature. The hard part is watching your kid struggle for years and develop self-esteem problems. I'm not saying you should have your kid repeat first grade, but I would also counsel you to keep an open mind and think about the possible long-term benefit to your kid (and to you, who will likely be the one struggling to help with homework for years to come). Anyway, I fought against holding my daughter back for years but it was to her and my own detriment. Now she is doing great, and handles the content just fine (she makes mostly As and a few Bs).
I always got emotional about my daughter's school experience too, but now I've learned to detach, to not think of her as an extension of myself, to worry less about what people think, and to really focus on her needs. That has been helpful, but it took me a long time to get there. Just know that it will be okay if that's the path you decide to take. I'm sorry you are dealing with that on top of everything else.
Last edited by Ahoy; 01/13/1512:38 PM.
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!
Thanks Ahoy. Its a good reminder to keep an open mind and I feel much more able to do that today. I really appreciate your post and I know that everything will be okay either way. I see what a bright girl my daughter is.
My big problem in this current sitch is I do not trust this teacher's judgement after only knowing my daughter a few weeks.
(My sister who is a reading specialist and assistant principal does not think my daughter needs to be held back and thinks this letter is a CYA type of thing because she is reading below grade level)
Also I have an issue with the whole emphasis on reading & writing in the first grade, if I could afford to I would send her to a Waldorf school and she would be doing hippie art projects and knitting right now. But this is my issue.
That said we have a few more months to go to see how she does and if the material is reading is really too hard for her.
I feel much better about the whole thing this morning. Thank you so much Ahoy for your feedback just knowing I am not the only person out there that has gone through this is huge.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
