Just ranting, but my wife just started putting up the Christmas tree and listening to Christmas music. First song: oh come all ye faithful. Seriously, I couldn't make this up.
Whereas you may notice every little word and action that makes you think of the stitch, she doesn't. Her head is in the foggy clouds of her fantasy. She may be able to go to church, look pious, and sing religious songs.......all while thinking about OM. So don't be shocked that that particular song bothered her.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I'm not shocked at all. I'm sure she didn't even notice. I just found it humorous that that was the first song. And yes, I realize that I'm hypersensitive to everything I see and hear. No sad songs for this guy.
Saw her mom for the first time today. That was tough. Her mom loves me, but obviously wants her daughter to be happy. She said i just need to worry about me because I can't control how other people feel. It's funny how she said she was shocked when she heard. My W said her mom wasn't surprised and saw it coming.
Her mom did say my W was unhappy and mentioned leaving me before, but that was during a fight over something.
I didn't expect any answers out of the conversation, and i kept it short.
My W said 'everyone' knew our marriage was on the rocks. Well, I haven't found any of those people. Most said that anything W complained about I resolved on my side. Anyway, same thing here, her family was as shocked as anyone MIL actually was trying to tell me that W needed to be committed the first couple days.
Yeah, Xmas songs are tough. That dang 'All I want for Christmas is You' song was pretty much on repeat when I was at the mall over the weekend. Ugh, so much for a GAL activity
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
Ya, her sister who apparently wasn't suprised, and saw it coming, called me the day she found out. Needed to know where her sister was because she thought something was wrong and Needed to track her down because she worried about her.
Nothing has changed. She still gets upset, istill keep my cool. I go and do things for me, and most of the time she doesn't care, but I can tell it bugs her. I don't really know. It's hard because I feel like she's getting further and further away.
She got an apartment. She moves out in the middle of January. Been a little tougher the last couple days. I've slipped and made a few comments i shouldn't have. I don't have much hope right now, but I'll get back on track.
