Still doing LRT....

[Sotto]

20 minute phone chat with H today - hadn't spoken for 4 months! I had good PMA - warm & upbeat. Pleasant convo with a couple of laughs. Maybe 10 mins on rabbit business - I'm happy with the rehoming plan.

H has had 2 tough weeks - 40% of staff made redundant where he works. He had to make a team member redundant. They appealed about how this was handled & it was investigated by the CEO. H found it hard - really stressed, not sleeping. He felt he had to get out of town for a weekend to regroup. I validated.

Things are rough in his industry ATM after riding a wave of success for 10 years, he has friends out of work and says he has a job at least 'for now.'

I asked after SS and we talked about him for 5 mins. I said how nice his visit to me was etc. H said there has been a lot of homework yelling last couple of weekends - SS may be missing peacemaker Toots on that front!

OW not mentioned, and of course I didn't ask. No R talk. I didn't ask how he was as such - other than what he volunteered. Weirdly, he asked nothing about me - not even how I was doing. I didn't volunteer any info. Although he was pleasant, he seemed pretty self-absorbed.

I ended the chat after 20 mins - had somewhere I needed to be (genuinely!) He's going to let me know how the rabbit gets on next weekend.

So, this weekend, he's thinking about his life - and I feel pretty detached actually.

I empathise with him though - I think he's really going through it at the moment. I already sensed it wasn't the easiest Xmas for him, and straight into this work stuff after. Funny, it's easy to think everything is a bed of roses for him (and hard for me) but it isn't like that. My life is pretty calm in comparison (lighthouse?..)

Glad we spoke anyway...observations welcome!

[Sotto]

All quiet for me after the talk with H this weekend. He texted me to say the lady can't take our rabbit now, due to a family crisis - oh well...

I do feel he's in a pretty dark place right now - having a weekend away on his own trying to figure his life out. I empathise, and I also see that it may well be a good while before he knows what he wants. And who knows, I may have moved on in the meantime...

Does he find it surprising that I don't even ask if he's figured out life now? IDK..I certainly worry less about what he's up to than I used to.

Did some nice GAL activities this weekend - bookstore volunteering, family lunch and Aqua Aerobics. Have decided a new GAL activity is called for, so will plan that this week. I'm thinking about a yoga class.