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Re: Going Down Hill 2 [Re: zed] #2517750
12/16/14 02:54 PM
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Zed,

I agree that it is important to discuss some legal options with your L. What I am wondering here is if this is the first time your W has taken the kids? If yes, then I would wait a bit longer to allow everyone to cool off. Then you can try to reach out to W in a few days. If she shows any difficult or uncooperative behaviors, then fight for 50-50 custody.

You need to be prepared for some serious blow back from W on this.

Are you?

This doesn't mean that you have to be a jerk about it. Strong, firm and steady.

Re: Going Down Hill 2 [Re: zed] #2517751
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I would have advised you NOT to have sent that text or any communication to W. This will set you back. STFU!!

Re: Going Down Hill 2 [Re: zed] #2517752
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Originally Posted By: zed
I did text her this morning "I know you are mad/angry at me. But don't take this out on the kids. If you look past all the anger you may see the hourly schedule might be good. The kids would get to see both parent's every day. Bring the kids home W.


STFU! STFU!

You argued with W and ordered her around. That will NOT help your case at all.

No more communicating with W for several days. Seriously.

Re: Going Down Hill 2 [Re: Wonka] #2517764
12/16/14 03:28 PM
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Wonka I know you are try to help so don't take this as an attack toward you just some questions. You have seen this more than me. No communication? What if she doesn't decide to bring kids back for Christmas? Am I supposed to sit and wait until she decides to bring kids home? I can't tell her that I want to talk to kids?


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Re: Going Down Hill 2 [Re: zed] #2517765
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Zed,

Aren't you listening at all? I recommend that you cool it and give this a few days before you reach out to W. It has only been one day.

Please keep us posted on what your L says.

Re: Going Down Hill 2 [Re: Wonka] #2517770
12/16/14 03:38 PM
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Okay. thx. I am still worried as this will be the 4th day that she has taken the kids and I was supposed to see them. I will let it be. And Let everyone know when I hear from lawyer.

Thx again Wonka. I really do appreciate your help


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Re: Going Down Hill 2 [Re: zed] #2518183
12/17/14 06:06 PM
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W has been gone for 4 days with kids and did not tell me she was taking them. I found out they we staying at her parents. My oldest D has a Christmas concert today. I just got a TM from W "We will be at the house tonight to get ready for Xmas concert and stay the night"

Any thoughts on how I should handle this? I feel like saying something like this. "The kids are more than welcome to stay the night. But I hope you can respect my space at this time"

Hopeing someone has some input on this.
Thanks


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Re: Going Down Hill 2 [Re: zed] #2518349
12/18/14 03:26 AM
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Well just got the heads up that I will be getting divorce papers in the next couple days. Merry Christmas to everyone


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Re: Going Down Hill 2 [Re: zed] #2518354
12/18/14 04:01 AM
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Oh yah. By text. She couldn't even tell me to my face. The night of the kids Christmas concert. What a beauty.


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Re: Going Down Hill 2 [Re: zed] #2518388
12/18/14 10:21 AM
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Sorry to hear Zed. Chin up and game face on!

DB all the way.

You are not alone mate!

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