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Re: Going Down Hill 2 [Re: zed] #2517652
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Zed,

Calm down....you basically threatened W which elicited a phone call from FIL. Not surprising at all.

Get your center back and focus on your goals. Be the better person that you are capable of and much more. What needs to happen is for you to cool off for the next 48-72 hours so the dust can settle down.

Taking a scorched Earth approach isn't going to help matters at all. Drop the self-righteous chit. For real. For your own sake.

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Originally Posted By: zed
I am fuming mad right now. I have always felt like I have been the nice person and husband. And this btch just keeps walking all over me.
I'm going to wreck this girl....


Calm the F@CK down!!

Re: Going Down Hill 2 [Re: Wonka] #2517667
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I know Wonka. I know I should calm down. It's just so hard. I really feel like I keep getting kicked in the nuts. And all i'm supposed to do is let it slide off my back. And pretend if doesn't bother me? I don't want to be a bad, mean, or revengeful person. But when is enough....enough?

It feels like there are only 2 ways to end this. Fight back or give up on my kids and walk away from everything.

I wish I would be able to sleep tonight. But I doesn't look like that will happen no matter how hard I try


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Re: Going Down Hill 2 [Re: zed] #2517669
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And to think. I spent 2 hours on a slide show for her today for her Christmas present "from the kids"

Oh sh#t....FML


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Re: Going Down Hill 2 [Re: zed] #2517672
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Originally Posted By: zed
And to think. I spent 2 hours on a slide show for her today for her Christmas present "from the kids"


Drop the slide show for it will be seen as pursuit. I would suggest that the kids make something for their Mom such as a homemade picture frame from Michael's arts and craft store. Keep it real and simple. Mothers really love homemade gifts from the kiddos.

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Checking in on you, Zed. How are you doing? I do hope that you've cooled off by now.

Re: Going Down Hill 2 [Re: Wonka] #2517737
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Yah Thx Wonka for everything. I do really appreciate it. Took some sleeping pills went to sleep. Still really angry, mad, sad. All the emotional gauntlet. Emailed my lawyer last night. She will hopefully get back to me this morning so that I know how I should proceed.


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Re: Going Down Hill 2 [Re: zed] #2517740
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Lawyer? Uh-oh...for what reason, if you don't mind me asking you.

Give this some more time to let everyone cool off then you can reach out to W to arrange for the next kiddo switcheroo. You MUST keep your head screwed on tightly for you'll need all of your wits going forward. I hope this is a temporary lapse.

Chin up, buddy.

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Lawyer b/c W does not want to honour any verbal or parental agreement we made at mediation. Now she took the kids when it was supposed to be my time and will not bring them back. I have to talk to lawyer about trying to see my kids and get a court appointed custody agreement.

Or do you really think I should just leave her have the kids when every she please's?


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Re: Going Down Hill 2 [Re: zed] #2517749
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I did text her this morning "I know you are mad/angry at me. But don't take this out on the kids. If you look past all the anger you may see the hourly schedule might be good. The kids would get to see both parent's every day. Bring the kids home W.

Hourly schedule was what we last agreed to in mediation. Day after mediation she said she that it was "retarded". She would have the kids during the day and I would have them most nights when I would get home from work for 2-3 hours. She had the option of leaving the house or staying while I had kids


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