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Re: Not sure what to do at this point [Re: Little] #2513222
12/03/14 02:15 PM
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Thanks Ahoy and Little. I'm trying. It's getting easier everyday. I had to go unlock a gate for him yesterday and I swear he looks like he's aged 5 years in a week. Sad eyes.

Oh well, I just smiled, and he thanked me and I left.

Had a minor setback yesterday evening. After dinner, I stopped at corner store with S10 and one of the ladies that works there said, "So I hear your H is still messing with OW?" I replied, "Not sure what he's doing, nor do I care."

Obviously I do care or I wouldn't have texted H. "Nice hearing about you and OW when I take our S places, nice".

Think I will find another store to go to as I really don't need to hear that crap.


Me-49, H-45
M - 4, Together 9
SS-9
Bomb Dropped - 9/12
Separation - 10/12
Reconcile -2/13
Separation - 8/2013
Reconcile - 10/2013
Separation - 12/2013
Reconcile - 2/14
Separate - 5/14
H Filed D - 8/14
Re: Not sure what to do at this point [Re: Tina825] #2514629
12/06/14 11:17 PM
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I've been dark and now he's texting me like crazy.

Asked me to come eat tomorrow at our beach house. Where he stays when he has our son. I asked was OW still in his life? He said, forget it. I said well as long as she is, I'm not.

Will not be a option for him.


Me-49, H-45
M - 4, Together 9
SS-9
Bomb Dropped - 9/12
Separation - 10/12
Reconcile -2/13
Separation - 8/2013
Reconcile - 10/2013
Separation - 12/2013
Reconcile - 2/14
Separate - 5/14
H Filed D - 8/14
Re: Not sure what to do at this point [Re: Tina825] #2514647
12/06/14 11:56 PM
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Good for you, Tina!


M: 43 H: 39
D: 14
Married 15 Together 16
BD: 6/2014
S: 8/2014
OW revealed 10/2014
Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress
So over it!
Re: Not sure what to do at this point [Re: Tina825] #2514649
12/07/14 12:00 AM
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Tina, WOW is all I can say. You are clearly a woman only a fool would leave. Stay your course. Ball is in your Hs court and you've made that crystal clear.


H 37 Me 36
Together 15 years
Married 5 years
No kids
BD Apr 2014
H moved out 2 Jun 2014
Re: Not sure what to do at this point [Re: gan] #2514731
12/07/14 07:45 AM
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Tina
Dealing with H is one thing, but OW texting you is another. Keep the evidence.

If it had been me I would by now have done a 180 and put the texts on automatic forwarding. To his email if you can because he would respond immediately by text or phone. email would be less easy for him. Plus you can block email responses from him. If that's not possible then manual forwarding. No comment though other than to tell him they are being forwarded.

Glad you are here, keep posting.

Vanilla


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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
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Re: Not sure what to do at this point [Re: Vanilla] #2516595
12/12/14 09:09 AM
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Thanks for the responses.

In the last 5 days he has texted more and more. Telling me he loves me, he misses me, he misses all the things we use to do together, etc.

Again, I give the: As long as you are with OW, do not text me these type of messages response.

He is now upset with me because he thinks I had a man in HIS house. Have not heard from him since yesterday morning.


Me-49, H-45
M - 4, Together 9
SS-9
Bomb Dropped - 9/12
Separation - 10/12
Reconcile -2/13
Separation - 8/2013
Reconcile - 10/2013
Separation - 12/2013
Reconcile - 2/14
Separate - 5/14
H Filed D - 8/14
Re: Not sure what to do at this point [Re: Tina825] #2517691
12/16/14 11:08 AM
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Tina

Good for you. Maintain those boundaries, be firm.

Ignore the rail, H knows the truth, it's just a big rationalisation that you are rejecting him because there is someone else. That's his behaviour not yours. Smile to yourself, it's irrational and not you.

Now OW texting you makes some sense to me, H only seems to want what he can't have. OW is no longer such an attractive proposition to H and she may see it. Possibly roll out next OW?

I got this, apparently my affair is a 72 year old much married female called Jo, who H felt w as a hansome young buck with whom I had a great passion. He still does not know Jo is female and a fellow Rotarian with whom I was arranging parking permits for a concert!

Keep strong
Vanilla

Last edited by Vanilla; 12/16/14 11:11 AM.

Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW


Re: Not sure what to do at this point [Re: Vanilla] #2517702
12/16/14 12:33 PM
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Every one in my area is talking about my hot love life, where it is I have no ideas.

Get dressed real pretty go out have a ball go home alone. Have some fun, h has some work to do. It's nothing you can do for him.


M 46 h54
Both married before
T 11y
Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads!
Ms 18 hs 26
Re: Not sure what to do at this point [Re: Ggrass] #2517738
12/16/14 02:30 PM
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Gg

It's the kick ass red shoes! Only a red hot gg would wear those.

Shhhhh.........

Sees RHC3 on the horizon.

Tons
Vanilla


Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW


Re: Not sure what to do at this point [Re: Vanilla] #2517880
12/16/14 09:43 PM
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Shame I missed the romance with the first 2, rolls eyes.

Must say having a canine bf is easy, not high maintence like a real h. grin


M 46 h54
Both married before
T 11y
Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads!
Ms 18 hs 26
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