I have been following this forum for a while and it looks like a good place for me to state my problems. I am a Husband married for 2 years now and have a small kid. I am addicted to P and have been addicted for almost 15 years with multiple attempts to quit. I have decided to live my life with it and there is absolutely no way I am going to tackle this issue with my spouse. Ours was an arranged marriage setup by our parents. Every day since our marriage has been an ordeal. I have made best possible efforts to keep the marriage going. I could not broach the topic of leaving as she was pregnant. Now that everyone is healthy and good to be on their own, I am thinking of leaving..before my addiction starts to show and cause irreparable damage to all our lives.
Only other option I see is to run away without anyone knowing. I have never ever dealt with an issue heads on..and have always let matters get out of hand before dealing with it. Running away seems to be the easier option, but divorce seems to be the correct option. Counselling and talking about quitting this addiction are out of the picture as I am 100% sure the won't work.
I might just be looking to confirm my views here...But I was wondering if there was anyone out there with similar issues.
Re: Feel I am causing more harm by staying!!!
#2513207 12/03/1401:35 PM12/03/1401:35 PM
This is very difficult but very hard to stop on your own with any addiction. If you read my thread you will see I am with a H who has multiple addictions.
You will need professional help, and along with that truth and a heavy dose of realism. Start by contacting a 12 step programme such as NA. They often have access to resources and additional help.
You really need to buy into recovery, running away is an addicts last action to hang on to their addiction. Of course DB can help but in truth you need on the ground resources and intervention and the will to change.
You are at a cross road, well done for reaching out on this as it shows you want action and change. No one can do this for you but you. Will you take the difficult path?
Addictions can all be treated. Are u addicted to pot or porn? The treatment of addiction begins by the person wanting to change. If u dont see i need to change than u wont. Losing a family over an addiction is not a good plan. Glad you are asking for help
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”