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Hi all. I started a new thread because I have to move on a the old thread made me feel as if I was trying to fool myself.

My life must go on and W is not part of it. Maybe one day but we will see

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Your life will go on, rd. And you deserve so much, and have grown so much as a father. There are good things that have come out of this painful process, and there will be more good things to come in your life, no doubt!


M: 43 H: 39
D: 14
Married 15 Together 16
BD: 6/2014
S: 8/2014
OW revealed 10/2014
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So over it!
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Thanks Ahoy. You have always had such kind words thank you.

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Hi all. Bad day today. W had Ds last nite. Myself and boys watched a film and had take away. W brought Ds back this am and S16 and I went to get tree this is normally a really happy time but can't get into it. Putting positive attitude for kids but inside it hurts. W and D10 gone to see D13 dance House feels empty and I'm on my own Sorry go round. I have a lot to be grateful for and I'm trying to focus on that but I miss my Ws love. I can see she is sad but also accepting of stich

I saw good news on another post and I am really pleased but also jealous I know this does not show my decent side but it's how I feel. I need to let go and I'm not able to do so. There is no backsliding from DB but today the loneliness is tough.

To all of you in my boat , it's chit , no one on these boards seems like a bad person so it's tough to accept the actions of our WAS Yes we messed up but look at the effort we are prepared to put in for our M.

Sorry for rant but 25 years of good Christmas days and now we are apart

Thanks for reading

Rd

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Hello Rd. Hang in there. Try to focus on those positives. We know things will get better. Something good could even happen today if we look out for it. I know how you feel and I'm with you right now... right where you are. Stay strong.


Me: 44
W: 45
S: 11
Married: 15
Together: 18
BD: 9/29/2014
OM discovered: 10/16/2014
I left her behind: 12/14/2014
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Thanks so much HPirort. I read you stich but never have the right words. My W will not admit OM and did leave me with kids and house I am very lucky and I do know that , it's just some days it just seems I can't cope with the pain.

Thanks again for kind words and I read all the posts on here and wish you all a positive outcome even if I dont comment.

Take care. Rd

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Hugs to you, rd. The pain will diminish in time. Take extra good care of yourself during the holidays. It is a difficult time for sure...


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BD: 6/2014
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(((((Hugs)))))

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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW


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This may not help whatever you feel today, but believe you will come through this ordeal being a stronger man than when it started. It is not having a great, easy, and happy life that makes us stronger. From what I understand, it is the heat/pressure that makes many beautiful things we humans treasure. So think of yourself as being processed into a priceless gem. wink


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
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Originally Posted By: sandi2
This may not help whatever you feel today, but believe you will come through this ordeal being a stronger man than when it started. It is not having a great, easy, and happy life that makes us stronger. From what I understand, it is the heat/pressure that makes many beautiful things we humans treasure. So think of yourself as being processed into a priceless gem. wink




What Sandi said. I look at this as basic training to prepare for the remainder of my life. You'll come out of this stronger and better than you were going in. Grace and peace to you.


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D11, D15
T21, M19
BD 9/9/2014
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Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood

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