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Mighty #2511049 11/26/14 03:27 AM
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Xh was not aware that my surgery was today. D13 is still home sick. She said xh came in today and was calling my name. She just said I left already (she said she didn't know if she should tell him about surgery- bless her heart, she is so protective of me.)


He came in BEFORE he even went to work!

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So glad you are ok, Mighty.

Dont forget to take care of you...because you matter, too. smile

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Hww probably can't understand why you're upset, because your ex most likely lied to her. I bet the story was that your marriage had been over for years, moving out was just a formality, you hadn't had sex in years, yadda yadda yada. That's usually the way it works.

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Btw, only you could make outpatient surgery sound like a spa day!!!

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Originally Posted By: kml
I bet the story was that your marriage had been over for years, moving out was just a formality, you hadn't had sex in years, yadda yadda yada. That's usually the way it works.
Yeap, this is what my H told to the girl he tried to hook up with.

Mighty, I'm glad your surgery is over and you are doing ok. It helps to have some sleep and rest.


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Btw, only you could make outpatient surgery sound like a spa day!!!

OMG, Ellie!! That's what I kept telling them in my groggy state! The nurses kept looking at me all weird and laughing. I was like, Aaahhhhh this is just like a spa! When I was leaving, I told them all at the nurses desk, thanks for the day at the spa.

Pretty sad that it was the most relaxing day of the year for me. All I needed was no family, anesthesia, a bed, and a closed curtain. Best day ever.

You could be right, but I do know she was pursuing him in the beginning. He probably created something like that to justify taking the leap.

Thanks, uR. I am doing ok. Plugging along.

Hey Bright! Ugh, the lies. Booo! I hate that. I will be checking in on you soon. My brain hasn't been able to handle much lately, so I haven't been a very supportive friend. I feel badly. I will be around. Hope things are well.

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And thanks to Heather who was sending me lots of support through text this morning as I was In The waiting room alone. (And letting me know I was being supported by my friends here. That's what I woke up to! smile Just what I needed! XXOO

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Hope the surgery went well. Relax and give your body time to heal. You may feel OK but you do need to realize your body has to get back to 100%.

Let me tell you about a member of my family. My cousin (I'll call her K) has been married for 30 years to a really great guy. That have 3 kids and seem to get along great. She went through a bad cancer scare several years ago and nearly died but her H stayed by her side and was very supportive. She is now cancer free. About 3 years ago a young girl got in touch with her H. Seems that 14 years before H had had an affair. The affair apparently lasted for YEARS and my cousin never knew. He stopped the affair without my cousin ever finding out. Well, what he didn't know was his OW was "with child" when they broke up and never told him. This girl has had a very hard life as her mother is unstable and sought out the father she never knew.

As you can imagine, my cousin was shocked. Not only did she find out about her H's affair but that he had fathered a child while married to her. Not only that it had gone on for years and she knew this woman. She had a choice. Did she want to stay and forgive? What about the girl? My cousin decided that it wasn't the girls fault that she was born because of her mothers having an affair with a M man. She is a troubled but nice kid. K decided to accept her as part of the family. This girl now has brothers and a sister she never knew. She has the stable influence of a whole family and has an escape from the craziness of her mothers life (she apparently has a history of "dating" married men, isn't very interested in her D, etc.). She also has a good relationship with the father she never knew which would have been hard if his wife wouldn't accept her. For the last few years she has been included in family functions, treated like any other family member by my family and is doing so much better because of it.

If it does turn out that this child is your H's and you do end up back together, this may become a choice you have to make. I know this is something that you won't be needing to deal with until much later, if ever (I still have my doubts about the kid being his) but it is something to keep in mind.

My cousin had a different sitch than you for sure. The affair was long ago and over for many years. Her H never left her for this woman. But the fact is your kids will be somewhat related to this child if it turns out it is your H's child. How you view him/her will be important. Like I said just something to keep in mind.

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Mighty - i am glad you are OK after surgery - be nice to yourself, right now, you come first.

And i do know what you mean about the quiet times of hospitals. Also they take care of you there and you feel safe.

While we deal with MLC we can feel so uncared for and so unsafe.

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Please take it easy and allow your body to heal. I hope you are feeling better soon.


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The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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