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What's your username over there, Bond?


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Same. Actually a moderator deleted the majority of the thread because it was getting "heated". LOL.

mike, what's your plan for the trip?


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I saw it. I just responded, but that might get taken down too. I'm sorry, Bond. -- way unfair.

Sorry for the hijack!


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Crazy isn't it? I'm having fun with it though. I saw your post. Thanks for the backup. I just wasn't into them bashing people whom they don't know, especially sandi and 25yearsmlc.

mike, I can tell you that you've chosen the right forum to save your marriage.


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To be honest, Bond, it made the hair on the back of my neck stand up and it kinda CREEPS ME OUT that they all seem to know so much about you, AND me. I mean, he had all of my old "Puppy" posts what -- cross-archived or something, by keyword?

(((((shudder)))))

I'm not playing their game. I suggest you stop as well, but you're obviously free to do what you wish. I just felt I had to defend you, Robx, Sandi and even ol' 25.


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It's like a cult over there. No disagreement allowed ....


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Getting ready for cruise and W decides to go for a "hike". Never mind she had to take a shower and wash her hair before she went. W has been gone for an hour so far. Amazing!


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Mike, how did your DB coaching session with Chuck go? What goals did you two lay out that we can help you with?


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He said I need to focus on what works. Keep working on GAL and "lovingly" detach.

Our cruise went pretty well considering our sich. I exerted my leadership and alpha status for the most part. No big issues and she was more willing to follow my lead. It is still uncomfortable not to really have any physical touch and seems awkward when we part. It really bugs me when she says "my boys" instead of "our boys".

It is hard to know where she is really at with Our R, since I really can't believe what she says. Feeling frustrated not really knowing what is working the best and even if I want to stay married. I still see signs of her sweet side, but trust is a big issue. She says things like "on the next cruise we should go...". Just have the feeling that as long as she can keep her two lives going, she won't change or make a decision. Not sure how long I am willing to let this go on.


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Originally Posted By: mikechc
He said I need to focus on what works. Keep working on GAL and "lovingly" detach.



Good advice. Just make sure you define "what works" as being "what makes her make demonstrable moves away from OM, and back towards the marriage," and not as "what makes her act nice towards me." That's a big mistake many people make here.

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