Labug, in the accident post I started to write a whole complaint about his response to the accident and then I remembered whose sandbox that was. But I hadn't connected the dots before about the accident and when I started freaking out about the lack of effort he was putting into us.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
We have parent teacher conferences tonight and I was planning to take the kids out to dinner tonight. Is it pursuing or just common courtesy to invite H along?
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
Yes. A simple, "you are welcome to join us" is friendly. Good luck!
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
I invited him and he came. No expectations. It was fine.
The kids & I make a wonderful family. We parked next to a car with a great license plate and were all laughing about it when he came in. We share a lot.
H asked about my job. he asked if I was still following a show he & I used to watch together and I said yes. He told me about one he likes and we chatted for a moment about that. He asked me about the party I went to on Saturday (it's an annual one he went to last year and kind of scoffed at. He didn't scoff this year). It was a pleasant dinner.
He might believe an OW can hold a candle to our wonderful family but I wouldn't trade it for anything.
I got the boys to bed and D11 asked me to braid her hair. Then we curled up together on her bed and talked for 45 minutes. It was amazing. I felt like I got my precious girl back. She's the only one to ask me what I'm doing for Thanksgiving. She was sweet and it was a very loving evening with her.
I asked her to stop picking on S8 so badly and she said that every time she wants my attention he's totally butting in. I'm glad to understand her better now. It probably changed me more than her but that will make a big difference.
No expectations of my H. I'm slightly drowning with the kids and the house and the job, exercise has become hard to fit in and I'm back to sleeping poorly, but I think with a good attitude and some discipline these things will even out over time. I'm ok. I don't know what the future holds but I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and gosh darn it, people like me.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
"He might believe an OW can hold a candle to our wonderful family but I wouldn't trade it for anything."
Amen.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
This morning I had a very vivid dream that my H had called at 12:30 to say he was on his way hime, but he didn't roll up till 4:30. In the dream I ran downstairs to let him in, but he let himself in because the windows had been broken. I started out yelling at him for being late but then we started looking around and every window in my house had been broken. He went to go check the basement and I stood in the entryway in my bare feet surrounded by broken glass wondering if we were safe.
Apparently my subconscious is not subtle.
I woke up angry at him, remembering every moment when I felt unloved and uninteresting. By the time I got through my shower I felt calmer and now I'm sad and resigned again.
I'm struggling a little bit this morning with not knowing what the future holds -- or even what I want. I'm glad last night wasn't bad. I don't know what else to say.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
